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Infant Care (up to 18 months old) Message Board

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I bottle-fed both of my girls and they are fine, never get sick, are growing just fine and have not had any problems because I didn't breastfeed. I tried with my first and wasn't able to, and then I had breast surgery in between, so I didn't even try with my 2nd. I got a taste of the benefits of bottle-feeding with my first and would have chosen formula with my 2nd anyway. Most of the time, I just tell people I couldn't breastfeed and leave it at that (as if to say I thought about it, would have preferred it, but physically wasn't able to - what can they say about that?). It's none of their business why I chose formula anyway, it was MY choice. I commend moms who are able to breastfeed, but I am not that strong of a person to deal with the additional sleep-deprivation of being the only one who can feed the baby. Even if I could breastfeed, at this point, I would still choose formula.

It's nobody's business to tell you how to raise YOUR baby. Besides, how do they know it's not breastmilk in the bottles? Some women prefer to pump over feeding in public. You could just tell them it's breastmilk and be done with it. You could also tell them you had a mastectomy and your breasts were reconstructed due to breast cancer and make them feel terrible for even bringing it up. Or you could just tell them that it's none of their business and where do they get off telling other people what to do and how would they feel if someone was constantly telling them they didn't agree with their choices that wasn't their business either? That's probably a battle not worth fighting, though. There are just too many outspoken people who make it their business to tell other people what to do that you'd be fighting with them all the time, but maybe that person will think twice about forcing their views on the next mom.

I don't understand why pregnant women and women with babies are targets of things people wouldn't dare to bring up otherwise. If you didn't have a baby, would strangers be discussing your breasts and your body and what you choose to do with them? Of course not! If you walked up to that same woman and started discussing her breasts and other personal things, she would surely be appaled, but she feels it her business to discuss yours with you.

I guess really all you can do at the end of the day is be comfortable with your choice and the fact that it is YOUR choice and try not to let inconsiderate people get to you, even if their family or friends. Your baby is getting the nutrition it needs. Besides, did you know that for the first 6 months your baby has your immunities anyway, regardless of whether or not you breastfeed? I thought that was an interesting fact, considering that's a major argument for breastfeeding, they just neglect to tell you that.

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