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Spoiled 4 month old
Mar 29, 2006
My son is spoiled, yes at 4 months old. One of my nurses in the hospital said, "You can't spoil a newborn, but you can spoil a baby 4 months +." I think she jynxed me. Cause here I am.
I didn't want to let DS CIO, so everytime he cried I picked him up, if he wasn't happy, I held him. Now, He won't let me put him down for too long. And if he can't see me, forget it. He screams his head off. This isn't crying he is doing, its full out yelling at me! Basically throwing a tantrum except he can't throw his body to the ground. lol If I ignore it, which I have tried to do for short amounts of time, his yelling turns into screams and cries, horrible cries! I have tried just being near him instead of picking him up, talking to him, singing, playing, but he still screams. I feel horrible hearing it, but it is also cute the way he squishes his face up. What can I do to curb this tude' my son has?
[QUOTE=roxyfoxy]My son is spoiled, yes at 4 months old. One of my nurses in the hospital said, "You can't spoil a newborn, but you can spoil a baby 4 months +." I think she jynxed me. Cause here I am.
I didn't want to let DS CIO, so everytime he cried I picked him up, if he wasn't happy, I held him. Now, He won't let me put him down for too long. And if he can't see me, forget it. He screams his head off. This isn't crying he is doing, its full out yelling at me! Basically throwing a tantrum except he can't throw his body to the ground. lol If I ignore it, which I have tried to do for short amounts of time, his yelling turns into screams and cries, horrible cries! I have tried just being near him instead of picking him up, talking to him, singing, playing, but he still screams. I feel horrible hearing it, but it is also cute the way he squishes his face up. What can I do to curb this tude' my son has?[/QUOTE]

Come see my 2 y/o and you'll know what spoiled really is! LOL! haha, I'm kidding. :P
Honestly, I doubt your 4 month old is spoiled. If he's used to being held a lot by you, then start to break him of that NOW. It'll be a heck of a lot harder if you wait til he's older!
Sounds like you are doing a great job. Those screams can really get to you. Especially when you have things you need to do. What helped me get through was some advice I had read. Babies who's cries are answered and who are held as much as possible will be more independant toddlers. Why? Becasue they have security. They know you will always be there for them no matter what, so they feel they can venture off and explore. Some moms from my moms group felt they were spoiling their babies and tried to break them from it by not going to them right away, they also let their babies CIO. Other moms in my group answered cries everytime. When our babies were toddlers guess who the clingy ones were. It was amazing how the info was right on!

I know this was a personal study with no control group and lots of variables; so I cannot say it is valid. Just my personal observation.





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