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Infant Care (up to 18 months old) Message Board


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OK..first, sorry if this is so long!! ;) I was reading the "ferber" post and I was going to post there but figured I'd start a new thread. So, let me start by saying that my daughter was a pretty good sleeper at around 3-4 months old until she started teething. Then, like a typical baby, she would wake up erratically and some nights were worse than others.

Also, I'm not a big fan of "crying it out"! In fact, it breaks my heart because she gets so upset sometimes, it's hard for her to breathe and she has a VERY hard time calming down. Once at about 10 months, I let her cry for 30 minutes and I was so upset about it...for days I felt so guilty. Now, I only let her cry for about 5 minutes. Usually this is when she isn't quite ready to go to bed and I'm trying to see if she'll just lay down on her own (which she never does) and it also tires her out more, so by the time I go in and comfort her for a minute, she's out.
Sometimes, she's good about laying down and going to sleep and other times not...this is probably because she doesn't have consistent naps and almost never naps in her crib. So, I still find myself rocking her at times, when she's really upset about going to bed. I know, this is bad!!!:confused:
Here's the crups of the post...sorry this is taking so long to write!! It seems as though for months, she keeps waking up in the middle of the night. Sometimes once, sometimes 3 or 4 times!!:eek: Sometimes, I can calm her down right away without picking her up, lay her down, pat her back, put on her music and she goes back to sleep. Other times, if she knows I have left the room, she freaks out. And many times, she isn't consoled by the music or the patting and keeps standing up screaming for me to pick her up, so I do and rock her back to sleep. Since I went back to work, it was getting harder to keep doing this, and she would be soooo upset sometimes, so I started bringing her into bed with me and DH. I know, this was [B]NOT[/B] the best choice. My DH and I both agree that we shouldn't be doing this and we are trying to break from this habit but there are nights, neither of us have the patience, so she ends up in our bed. (Both my DH and I are light sleepers and are conscious of rolling over so we would never roll on top of her!) This is happening like 3-4 times a week!! In our bed, of course, she usually goes right to sleep and sleeps the most soundly through the night. I do try to move her back to her crib at various times after she's fallen asleep though.

OKAY, so here are my questions...are there any suggestions of what I can do to help this situation? I really don't want to let her cry it out but I'm fearing that as she gets older, she will demand more attention at bed time and through the night and then I'll have a screaming toddler on my hands! I don't know what wakes her up through the night. Sometimes it's from her wetting through her diaper, so we started giving her less to drink at night. Sometimes, I think it's gas (we've been exposing her to new foods). Sometimes I guess it could be teething, although she hasn't cut a tooth in months! And other times, I think it's nightmares because she seems terrified with her cries and holds me so tight when I pick her up. But regardless, after she cries a minute or 2, I go right in...should I extend this time? I usually think I should but then I also think that the more she gets upset, the harder it will be for me to calm her down and get her back to sleep. Has anyone gone through this before? Could it be just a phase? I mean, she won't be wetting her diapers, teething, and adjusting to new foods [I]forever[/I] right?:jester: I'm fearing the worst come September though because for the first time, we are going to try full time daycare (as opposed to family watching her) when I go back to work (I've been off for the summer) and I think this problem may get worse before it gets better!! But I also think that with many more activities at daycare, she will probably have a conistent nap everyday and maybe bedtime (and consecutive sleep) won't be so bad! What do you all think? Thanks so much for reading this VERY long post and for posting your thoughts!! I do appreciate it so much!;):angel:





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