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Worried Sick...Mom
Dec 25, 2010
This is my first post ever here.
I am extremely concerned about my mom. She has no insurance and ABSOLUTELY REFUSES to go to a doctor, not just because of no insurance, but because she has no faith in them at all! She is 64 and was a heavy smoker until she quit in 1983. For the past 8 months or so, I have seen the following symptoms emerge: she wakes up with congestion that she has to cough up. At various times of the day, she coughs and I can hear the congestion in her chest. Some days she is better than others, but for the most part, she is shortwinded a lot. She's lost weight, but has not been as bad about eating at night, so I don't know if it has anything to with her lungs.
I've read about both COPD and CHF (congestive heart failure). For all I know, she may have both or neither! A few years ago she did go to ER because she has bad bronchitis and then went to the clinic for a follow-up. It said that she had some bronchial asthma. She was given an inhaler. After her bronchitis cleared up, she seemed fine....but now I'm crying every night out of worry for my mom. I have thought about what I would do if something happened to her (I'm on disability for anxiety/depression issues). I had a dream one night that she died and I was sad, but rather than get hysterical, I "told" her that I would join her in death. It was the most natural decision in the world for me in the dream. I am not making this up. But anyhow, this is not about me. I'm am so scared for my mom but she is in denial and tells me that I worry too much. That with my sensitive personality, I'm making her problem much worse than it really is, that she's not 100%, but isn't in real bad health. I wish that was true. But my sister, who is not living at home and is a LPN, shares my concern. Neither of us can make her go to a doctor though. I've bought her natural supplements (I do a lot of research) and Co-Q10. She only takes 1 or 2 capsules a day of one supplement for lungs, even though the directions say 3-4, twice a day. Frankly, I don't know if the supplements have made a difference or not. I also bought an air purifier for the living room (she sleeps in the recliner because of achy shoulders and neck. It hurts for her to sleep on her side.) Then only drug she takes everyday is Prilosec.
I don't know what else to do. She already knows how worried I am. Yet, she still won't go to a doctor. I've pleaded and I've cried. One time she said she'd go to a doctor (to shut me up), but then added that she would not go to get any tests or anything, no matter what the doc I didn't hold her to it. Maybe she's afraid to go for fear of what he'll find. I have come to a point where I feel that it is not my right to try to push her any more. I guess I just needed to talk to some folks that would understand...I know y'all have problems enough of your own though. Thanks for listening.

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