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I posted this in Men's Health but maybe this belongs here instead.

I hope someone on these boards can provide some help for me. I'm 19, and for my whole life I've only been able to ejaculate by masturbation because oral sex and intercourse tend to just hurt. My penis is uncircumized and the only time I pull it all the way back is in the shower to clean. The foreskin is pretty tight, where I can pull it back when it is erect but it won't slide back and forth like its supposed to, it gets stuck behind the head. This is better than when I was younger, where I couldn't pull it back at all almost, but it still hurts whenever the foreskin gets stuck and my very sensitive head is exposed.

The head of my penis is EXTREMELY sensitive. It's sensitive to touch, or anything done to it (oral) and thus I lose my erection. Additionally, I don't feel anything really, when I'm having sex with a condom. My penis is about 5.5 inches in length...nothing to brag about. This has gotten into my mind now. This is happening with my second sexual partner and I want sex to be pleasurable for her as well as myself. I haven't had sex unprotected but I have a feeling that without a condom my foreskin will be forced back and it will hurt, thus I would have to stop.

What can I do to make my penis not sensitive and actually normal? I'm pretty sure it's the pain of my sensitive head that is causing me to lose my erections as well. How can I get my foreskin to slide back and forth without getting stuck? I've heard of stretching techniques, and letting the skin layer on the penis toughen up, but how long would it take for the layer to toughen enough to stop pain? I'm hesitant to do this because it hurts so much when I expose the head to anything...any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
Try not to worry too much about what you perceive "should" happen. Who says the skin has to slide all the way back and forth? If it slides back and stays there that's ok as your head will be able to feel more inside your partner anyway. If she's well lubricated she's not going to grip your skin and force it back so it hurts anyway. You'll be able to feel what's going on anyway. I've heard of one instance locally where a couple were having particularly rough sex and some damage was done to the skin, but it must have been very excessive! I wouldn't worry if your skin slides back and stays there unless your partner gets particularly dry or things get particularly frantic.

You could try desensitizing yourself outside of a sexual context. Try leaving your skin back through the day. It'll naturally get used to contact with your clothing etc. and that might help. If your skin's forward all the time you're pretty much insulating yourself of all sensation I would have thought and that might not be helping you. If you find it too sensitive having it back in the daytime you could maybe try this just while you sleep to start off with. It's just an idea, but it may help.
Thanks for the info.

I heard that if the foreskin is tight enough to get stuck behind the head during intercourse or something, it's dangerous because blood gets trapped in the head and circulation is impeded. Is that true?
True, it happens, but it's by no means common from what I can gather. If yours moves ok and hasn't yet felt like it's constricting then I wouldn't worry as it'd be highly unlikely to suddenly become too tight.

Re-reading your first post it sounds like you may have had problems in this area but it's hard to tell how to interpret what you've written. You know your own body though, and I would say you can make a sensible judgment as to whether the skin getting "stuck" behind the head is actually a real problem where it's actually constricting things or whether it's just that the skin isn't long enough to naturally stay far forward when you're hard. Remember that your skin spends most of its time around a soft penis and your skin isn't going to cover the head in the same way when you get hard. It's not uncommon for skin to naturally sit behind the head when hard.
Well I think the opening of my foreskin is a bit too tight because I can slide it back and forth when flaccid, but when erect it takes some effort to retract the foreskin past the head and then I can't slide the foreskin back over the head unless I first pull the foreskin all the way down the shaft and back up. I know that might not make much sense, I can't really find a better way to describe it. I've heard people talk about streching exercises for loosening up a tight opening, so I will try some of that. Any idea on how long it will take for my foreskin to slide back and forth without effort, if I do the exercises nightly?
No idea, sorry. Skin does stretch though and mind certainly did as I was growing up. If it moves freely enough back and forth once it's past the head then I wouldn't worry too much about it sliding all the way back and forwards during sex, because it doesn't have to. If it's uncomfortable or constricting (I'm thinking like a belt that's too tight) when it's back then you may want to do something about it, otherwise try not to worry. If you're only wanting it to slide all the way forwards when hard to compensate for the sensitivity then you may need to reassess what is the main issue you want to address.

If you're really worried, seek proper medical advice.
about six to eight weeks. there is a great sticky at the top of Men's Health about stretching a tight foreskin.
The hypersensitivity usually goes about a month to six weeks after retracting regularly when urinating.
[QUOTE=pittsburgher89;4029531]I posted this in Men's Health but maybe this belongs here instead.

The head of my penis is EXTREMELY sensitive. It's sensitive to touch, or anything done to it (oral) and thus I lose my erection. Additionally, I don't feel anything really, when I'm having sex with a condom.

What can I do to make my penis not sensitive and actually normal? I'm pretty sure it's the pain of my sensitive head that is causing me to lose my erections as well. How can I get my foreskin to slide back and forth without getting stuck? I've heard of stretching techniques, and letting the skin layer on the penis toughen up, but how long would it take for the layer to toughen enough to stop pain? I'm hesitant to do this because it hurts so much when I expose the head to anything...any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks.[/QUOTE]

I'd try a desensitizing cream. "Prolong" or something like that. I've had similar issues with sexual dysfunction because of pain.

As for stretching, plenty of info in here about that. A urologist might steer you wrong honestly. I've had decent luck with steroid creams, get them to prescribe you one of those. Then use the cream and stretch your foreskin. If all else fails you can get circumcised. But don't consider that as a first resort. I've seen 2 urologists and they both told me to get circumcised but I didn't and I'm fine.
circumcision is not the answer to this one. circumcised men often post about hypersensitivity of the head, so it is something which is not all that well understood, either by the public, or the medical community.
Thanks a lot for the help guys. It's getting less sensitive already and the foreskin looser as well. I have an optimistic outlook for the weeks ahead!
Cool, no worries.





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