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yeesh burtonbabe, do I know what you are going through...my older sister was like that growing up too. Still is. She's 24 and I am 22 and we still bicker like we did when we were 16 and 18. She is just SO selfish and she can't see that. She struggled with rough times for a while, but quit drinking and has been on antidepressants for two years almost. You'd think that would be a big change. NO. I have fresh scars on my arm from a month ago when she grabbed me. She still throws things around, but has never really wrecked anything of great importance (of mine anyway). Personally, I think she is slighty neurotic or has a mild borderline personality disorder. Her rage is uncontrollable, blames everyone but herself for her problems. In fact, she still insists I am the one out of control... Freak, I hide in my room or at friends houses (unfortunatly, we live together while we go to school) when she starts getting tempermental. She can go from being funny to temper tantrum in three seconds. Her reactions are ridiculously childish, and she thinks its people around her that are being that way. We all think she needs to stop resenting her past and get on with the future. I have tried time and time again to talk to her about things. but it always ends up in a fight. She tells me she thinks we are playing the game "who can hurt each other more"... when we fight. I am pretty sensitive, and most often I end up tearing up or just outright crying. She laughs and says that she HAS to laugh and make fun of me because otherwise she would go nuts. GO nuts??!! She already is! I was diagnosed with cancer September 30th, and she has said many a time that we got along great up until October. Does she not realize I am going through just a LITTLE bit of stress? I want to move out, but my parents think we should stick it out a little longer. I don't know if I can mentally take it. I am a very positive friendly person, she hates the world and her only true friend is her boyfriend. (who also has a slight rage problem).
Whew. Sorry, that was a vent. I STRONGLY urge you to talk to your mom, a counseller, anyone that can help you with your sister. Please don't let it happen as long as it has been with mine. It's SO terrible to have to convince yourself you don't hate your sister....She is the only person that still can get me riled up and say stupid things. I hate how I react to her sometimes, like you said, I have to bring myself downt to her level for her to understand. My sister hates when I try to help her, so I would reccomend you don't confront her problems, or even give her solutions, I have been riding the mistake of doing that for quite some time now...I don't really know what else to do as this point, I would like to see a therapist with her. Maybe get a friend of your sisters to talk to her about it. Maybe she is going through huge anguish in her head that she can't even think about being sisterly. If my sister had any friends, I would love to do that. I think an outside person would help in this situation as well. Someone that isn't already involved.
Oh all the LUCK in the world to you, please keep me updated how you handle this, and if you EVER need to vent, I will be here to vent with you.
AGHHHHH SISTERS!!!!!!!!
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[QUOTE=bluesnowflake]yeesh burtonbabe, do I know what you are going through...my older sister was like that growing up too. Still is. She's 24 and I am 22 and we still bicker like we did when we were 16 and 18. She is just SO selfish and she can't see that. She struggled with rough times for a while, but quit drinking and has been on antidepressants for two years almost. You'd think that would be a big change. NO. I have fresh scars on my arm from a month ago when she grabbed me. She still throws things around, but has never really wrecked anything of great importance (of mine anyway). Personally, I think she is slighty neurotic or has a mild borderline personality disorder. Her rage is uncontrollable, blames everyone but herself for her problems. In fact, she still insists I am the one out of control... Freak, I hide in my room or at friends houses (unfortunatly, we live together while we go to school) when she starts getting tempermental. She can go from being funny to temper tantrum in three seconds. Her reactions are ridiculously childish, and she thinks its people around her that are being that way. We all think she needs to stop resenting her past and get on with the future. I have tried time and time again to talk to her about things. but it always ends up in a fight. She tells me she thinks we are playing the game "who can hurt each other more"... when we fight. I am pretty sensitive, and most often I end up tearing up or just outright crying. She laughs and says that she HAS to laugh and make fun of me because otherwise she would go nuts. GO nuts??!! She already is! I was diagnosed with cancer September 30th, and she has said many a time that we got along great up until October. Does she not realize I am going through just a LITTLE bit of stress? I want to move out, but my parents think we should stick it out a little longer. I don't know if I can mentally take it. I am a very positive friendly person, she hates the world and her only true friend is her boyfriend. (who also has a slight rage problem).
Whew. Sorry, that was a vent. I STRONGLY urge you to talk to your mom, a counseller, anyone that can help you with your sister. Please don't let it happen as long as it has been with mine. It's SO terrible to have to convince yourself you don't hate your sister....She is the only person that still can get me riled up and say stupid things. I hate how I react to her sometimes, like you said, I have to bring myself downt to her level for her to understand. My sister hates when I try to help her, so I would reccomend you don't confront her problems, or even give her solutions, I have been riding the mistake of doing that for quite some time now...I don't really know what else to do as this point, I would like to see a therapist with her. Maybe get a friend of your sisters to talk to her about it. Maybe she is going through huge anguish in her head that she can't even think about being sisterly. If my sister had any friends, I would love to do that. I think an outside person would help in this situation as well. Someone that isn't already involved.
Oh all the LUCK in the world to you, please keep me updated how you handle this, and if you EVER need to vent, I will be here to vent with you.
AGHHHHH SISTERS!!!!!!!!
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