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OCD or Depression?
Feb 3, 2004
I am a 33 year old male going through many, many changes at this time. I have always been pretty level headed and only a brief history of depression about 10 years ago with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

Let me list the major things that have happened to me in the past two years and then see if I can explain what has gone on lately.

1. Got married and moved to a new town, new job and bought a house.
2. Wife lost her job about 6 months later.
3. Resigned from my position and will seek employment after I finish out my contract in 5 months.
4. Wife found a new job and moved away for the time being for our financial reasons. I will join her once the house is sold and my job is through.
5. Finally, the positive.....we are going to have our first child in August.

Recently, I quit chewing tobacco. I then became sick with an intestinal problem that wouldn't go away. I obsessed about that and searched and searched as to why it wouldn't go away. Went to the Doc and it was IBS. Gave me a pill....good as new. BP is 100/60, great shape, etc. etc. Suddenly I started obsessing about death. Not any particular kind...just getting old and not being here someday. Looking back at how fast time has passed me by. This thought has saddened me so much that I am now depressed. I sit and cry, not because of what is going to happen way in the future, but because of my current state of mind. I am lonely, sick to my stomach, and scared because I never used to be this way. I love life and want to enjoy it to the fullest.

My question is has anyone else had similar thoughts. Is there hope that I will return to normal? Could this be situational?? or chemical?

I am seeing a therapist next week. I decided to post over here because when I looked at my favorite places, there were things in there about internal disorders, depression, anxiety, and medical technology in the next 100 years, life expectancy increases, etc.

This is just freakin me out because it has come on all of the sudden and I should be happy about so many things in my life.

Anyone with any thought, insight, or experience they would like to share is welcomed.
[QUOTE=bandb5]I am a 33 year old male going through many, many changes at this time. I have always been pretty level headed and only a brief history of depression about 10 years ago with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

Let me list the major things that have happened to me in the past two years and then see if I can explain what has gone on lately.

1. Got married and moved to a new town, new job and bought a house.
2. Wife lost her job about 6 months later.
3. Resigned from my position and will seek employment after I finish out my contract in 5 months.
4. Wife found a new job and moved away for the time being for our financial reasons. I will join her once the house is sold and my job is through.
5. Finally, the positive.....we are going to have our first child in August.

Recently, I quit chewing tobacco. I then became sick with an intestinal problem that wouldn't go away. I obsessed about that and searched and searched as to why it wouldn't go away. Went to the Doc and it was IBS. Gave me a pill....good as new. BP is 100/60, great shape, etc. etc. Suddenly I started obsessing about death. Not any particular kind...just getting old and not being here someday. Looking back at how fast time has passed me by. This thought has saddened me so much that I am now depressed. I sit and cry, not because of what is going to happen way in the future, but because of my current state of mind. I am lonely, sick to my stomach, and scared because I never used to be this way. I love life and want to enjoy it to the fullest.

My question is has anyone else had similar thoughts. Is there hope that I will return to normal? Could this be situational?? or chemical?

I am seeing a therapist next week. I decided to post over here because when I looked at my favorite places, there were things in there about internal disorders, depression, anxiety, and medical technology in the next 100 years, life expectancy increases, etc.

This is just freakin me out because it has come on all of the sudden and I should be happy about so many things in my life.

Anyone with any thought, insight, or experience they would like to share is welcomed.[/QUOTE]

Dear bandb5,
Seeing a Therapist is a good idea and it is a form of ocd and depression but with current situiations around the country I think justifiable. Actually you have a lot going for you and to be honest, although being in the fast lane seems to be the most important things in life, it isn't. We all desire things and we are convinced that they are the most important things we can do for our spouse or children but you will find that these things are meaningless without being able to just plain enjoy life and your loved ones. You will be surprized to find that seeing you happy is more important to your wife then anything else and for you it is the same with her. You will also find that seeing both of you happy will be the most important thing to your child. You can't spend your life worrying about death and a lot of these things come on when some find that they are becoming a parent. This kind of responsibility makes many changes in the way you think about things and you are apart from you mate. When I left the service I felt that everyone should have to go in right after high school to mature before going to college. I grew up with all kinds of hunting weapons. When my first Son was born, I thought no way should my son every go into the service. I quit hunting altogether when my middle son of three sons asked me at 4yrs., "Why would anyone kill a little deer and hang its head on the wall? I could not answer that. The least of your worries is getting all of the best of everything you see for them. They want you and your love and respect for their accomplishments, not material things like everyone thinks. Money is a problem but it can be worked out if you stick together and be there for your family. I am about 20 years older then you and I am disabled and have no future of doing anything. I still have my wife and children and some grandchilden. I cherish this. Cherrish what you have and wish for health and happiness to them all, not material things. Live each day to the fullest and let the All Mighty worry about the rest. I hope you find that you already had everything that you will ever need.

Sincerely,

Sickman :)





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