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Please do not disregard this thinking it is not important, I could really use someone's help because I feel like I am completely alone and I do not know what to do. I can't really talk to anyone because I don't want them to think I am strange, or just blow off my problem since it doesn't seem usual...

Ever since I was about 7 years old I have had a problem with constant daydreaming. I used to do it mainly at night, I remember around the age of 7 it would be little things like playing in the playground with a make believe boy from school. A few times I would daydream in class and completely forget where I was. In 2nd grade I remember the entire class was already outside on the playground but I was so lost in daydreaming that I didn't even realize it until after the teacher called my name about 7 times.

As the years progressed, I am now 19, these daydreams have intensified greatly. During my highschool years I would daydream only at home while in my bedroom, not in classes. These were usually about me being a different person and in diffent scenarios in life but I was always dating or married to someone who was successful and nice and handsome..unlike ANY other guys I knew in my life.

These dreams affect me everyday. I often get confused and find it hard to differentiate between reality and daydreams. I daydream around 4 or more hours a day now. This semester I just moved away to a university and I rarely study. I now even daydream during class lectures like in grade school.. It is not normal, and I know this. In my daydreams right now, I dream of me being completely different, older, wiser, prettier. Married with kids and it really is just an alternate reality. Almost like reading a book exceot I am living it. I think I started daydreaming as an escape from some problems in my childhood and it just stayed with me all these years. It scares me sometimes. But in a way, i don't WANT to stop because daydreaming makes me feel good when I have nothing else to do. Ever since I moved away to college my social life has completely stopped. Even when I lived at home I didn't have much of one but now I never go out anymore. Maybe I daydream so I can feel better about myself and so I won't go crazy from being alone. I really don't know, but I know that it has to stop. I know that I need to find another way to cope with the problems of life but I don't know HOW I can get help. I am currently seeing a psychologist because of some family problems and childhood problems that i had. Should I discuss this with her? How do I bring it up? Is this an actual disorder?

Again, please, i beg of you...don't disregard this thinking it is a joke or something. I know it doesn't SOUND real but I need help and I have no where else to turn.
I have the same problem my social worker says that daydreaming is a common behavior for children suffering from past or present abuse. She said it's like a way for them to try to deal with the pain, sort of like getting away. My psychiatrist diagnosed me as having borderline personality disorder you may want to look up the symptoms of this disorder you may have it. I do think you should tell your therapist about it then maybe she could help you figure out why you are doing it. For me they believe I do it because I don't like to be alone so to try to aviod abandonment that is why I daydream. They won't think you are crazy and you should bring it up in therapy quick before it gets worse, where you may daydream or disconnect from reality while driving. Good Luck
[QUOTE=sharita]I have the same problem my social worker says that daydreaming is a common behavior for children suffering from past or present abuse. She said it's like a way for them to try to deal with the pain, sort of like getting away. My psychiatrist diagnosed me as having borderline personality disorder you may want to look up the symptoms of this disorder you may have it. I do think you should tell your therapist about it then maybe she could help you figure out why you are doing it. For me they believe I do it because I don't like to be alone so to try to aviod abandonment that is why I daydream. They won't think you are crazy and you should bring it up in therapy quick before it gets worse, where you may daydream or disconnect from reality while driving. Good Luck[/QUOTE]


thank you SO much! We have the same symptoms and even though it sucks for both of us, I am relieved to know that someone else knows what I am going through. It does scare me because occasionally I do find that I drift when driving, but I quickly regain attention. It is still dangerous though! again I really appreciate your help! How did you bring it up with your psychiatrist, because I don't know what to tell her. Should I just say that I think I have a daydreaming problem??? :confused: I am just nervous because I don't want her to think I am strange and blow it off as childish. :(
I have a really good relationship with my psychiatrist so I just came out and told him. I told him how it started when I was young but is getting worse, and how it sometimes scares me. I don't know about your doctor but mine always ask me How are things going or how am I feeling today. I simple said lately I haven't been doing so well and then I told him about the daydreaming. I also told him the time of day I mostly do it and some of the things I dream about. I also said that when I do dream or he uses the term disconnect from reality that while I'm dreaming that I can't hear what's going on around me until I stop or someone calls my name a couple of times. I don't know what you have been diagnosed with but since I have BPD my doctor always takes things I talk about seriously and not blow me off because I'm emotionally unstable. Again, I think you should just go with it and make sure you tell her everything that's happening to you. If she can't help you or blow you off get a new psychiatrist or if she isn't also your therapist make sure you tell your therapist and maybe she can suggest some type of group you can go to. I'm pretty sure there are more of us that have this problem.
thanks so much. I have only been visiting this psychologist for about a month. I have not been diagnosed with anything that I know of yet, really all we do right now is just talk about my childhood and my current life. My next appointment is this Friday, I think I will bring it up then.


If I may ask, when is it during the day that you guys daydream, and how long do they last? As I said mine occur all throughout the day, but predominantly in the evening/night before bed, and they last a few hours.
i understand you very well amberlee,i have similar dreams too,but i just believe them,think sometimes not all the time,you should try not to dream all the time,just believe that you are living a life you want out there somewhere you cant see .i ve had a friend that people cannot see for more than 4 years and we still talk ,were together all the time,i believe hes there-sometimes there were times when i was so afraid i would lose him.(maybe i was obsessed)
if you always feel you have to dream all the time this could be obsession and i think you should see a good psychiatrist for that
i hope this helps im with you
[QUOTE=dinobites]This is a very interesting thread for me to read. As a child, teachers were constantly saying that I daydream too much in class. I don't really remember it back then, but I know it continued as I got older. I would imagine different senerios in my head, and sometimes kind of act them out when I was alone. Mine were never where I wasn't aware of what was happening around me, it was just like imagining. Sometimes I would (and still do) talk a bit to myself while I'm daydreaming, and even surprise myself when I answer outloud to the daydream going on in my head. In the past, the senerios I'd run through my head would last a few minutes, but the whole "episode" could last an hour(when I'm alone). I wonder if this is the same as what you are describing. I was abused, I am in counseling, but not sure about any personality disorders.[/QUOTE]


This is EXACTLY what has been going on with me, except i dont really act out the daydreams persay. But sometimes I laugh at them outloud... I too was abused and she (psychologist) seems to think that daydreaming was my only escape as a child. That is the way I have learned to cope with EVERYTHING because it is all I had growing up.

Good luck to you, and [B]talk to your therapist about this problem!!![/B]
Hi,

I used to imagine myself in conversation with people around me when I was younger..similar thing to you [with the playground thing]. I'd make up characters in my head..they existed in my head and I'd imagine them near me and it would keep me occupied. As I was growing and getting busy with school, I never really had any time to daydream much. But 2 years ago, I started homeschooling and for a while now I have been having these autistic fantasies or you could say daydreaming. I'd find myself lost in my thoughts for like atleast 5 minutes. It was like I was playing some sort of movie in my head. And when I'd get tired..I'd stop and the next time I had nothing to do and was really bored..I'd go back to my daydreaming state. It felt good because it made me feel better for a while. I was escaping some problems I had to face in reality. I've never been abused but theres always stress with everything going on around you and that feels like the easiest way out for a little while. But for a few weeks now, I have been trying not to do that anymore because I've gone into a state of feeling unreal [depersonalization]. It was scary at first and sometimes it feels like its getting worse but I know this will pass because the brain needs some time to heal. I think constant/excessive daydreaming gives your brain a lot of work to do and in a way, thats more stress. Even though it may seem like the best solution to escape the problems for a while and feel better..its not the most effective thing to do when you're feeling bored/depressed. I was wondering if you or anyone else here had these daydreaming/autistic fantasy thing that led to DP? I dont know if thats the cause really for my feeling unreal. I just keep thinking that it might be. I'm not seeing any therapist at the moment but I think I will. I dislike the idea of going to someone and telling him/her everything and ah. But then again..they can get me out of all this.

Sorry for such a long post.
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