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Emotional numbness
Apr 28, 2005
I've always seemed to have this tendency - to not be able to feel negative emotions, but I have noticed it become worse and it now seems to be out of control.

It's how I generally cope/coped with things. Little things that tend to make others sad, like a death/tragedy on the news or of someone distant, I didn't allow to bother me. It was quite useful and still is to an extent.

I have however gotten to a state at the moment where I seem to feel very little. I don't feel my usual anxiety in some social companies, but I know its there, if that makes sense. I don't feel (sexually/emotionally) attracted to anyone anymore and even the normal feeling of boredom making you seek social situations is so weak as to be inexistent. Yet I know the feelings are there, because they affect my wellbeing in non-emotional ways like tenseness, tightness and other unconnected experiences.

There are many things that are not right with my life at the moment, and I don't mean that in the melancholic sense. Just that there are things I ought to feel bad about and think through and indeed I need to process emotionally to get through, but not being able to feel anything is a block on this. All I have is some artificial, but real-feeling happy optimism and a tendency to laugh at everthing. I'm sort of in a robotic, don't think about anything more than 5 seconds state that I want to get over. I can connect quite well with emotions in films and so on, just not in me.

I've heard the key to getting over emotional problems is to relive them and experience them. I'm currently trying to do that whilst doing all the things that make me happy so that I overwhelm myself with positivity whilst dealing with the negativity, so I don't get myself into a depressive state which was my usual response to thinking about the negative things.

Just wondering how you think I can go about unlocking my feelings that I used to have. When I think about the things that (should) make me sad, I tend to just feel tense and want to do something else. When I avoid doing something else, I recall things but with no emotion. Like the saddest things but not even a quaint sign of feeling. I always used to think if I could get rid of negative feelings, everything would be great. Somehow, by accident, I've achieved this when I didn't want to, but I now know this is a poor state to be in. I get episodes of emotion-like responses that seem to have no obvious trigger and they distract and disturb me as they impair my concentration and contribute to my general state thats difficult to describe.

Any help would be appreciated.
[QUOTE=rIcHrD]I've always seemed to have this tendency - to not be able to feel negative emotions, but I have noticed it become worse and it now seems to be out of control.

It's how I generally cope/coped with things. Little things that tend to make others sad, like a death/tragedy on the news or of someone distant, I didn't allow to bother me. It was quite useful and still is to an extent.

I have however gotten to a state at the moment where I seem to feel very little. I don't feel my usual anxiety in some social companies, but I know its there, if that makes sense. I don't feel (sexually/emotionally) attracted to anyone anymore and even the normal feeling of boredom making you seek social situations is so weak as to be inexistent. Yet I know the feelings are there, because they affect my wellbeing in non-emotional ways like tenseness, tightness and other unconnected experiences.

There are many things that are not right with my life at the moment, and I don't mean that in the melancholic sense. Just that there are things I ought to feel bad about and think through and indeed I need to process emotionally to get through, but not being able to feel anything is a block on this. All I have is some artificial, but real-feeling happy optimism and a tendency to laugh at everthing. I'm sort of in a robotic, don't think about anything more than 5 seconds state that I want to get over. I can connect quite well with emotions in films and so on, just not in me.

I've heard the key to getting over emotional problems is to relive them and experience them. I'm currently trying to do that whilst doing all the things that make me happy so that I overwhelm myself with positivity whilst dealing with the negativity, so I don't get myself into a depressive state which was my usual response to thinking about the negative things.

Just wondering how you think I can go about unlocking my feelings that I used to have. When I think about the things that (should) make me sad, I tend to just feel tense and want to do something else. When I avoid doing something else, I recall things but with no emotion. Like the saddest things but not even a quaint sign of feeling. I always used to think if I could get rid of negative feelings, everything would be great. Somehow, by accident, I've achieved this when I didn't want to, but I now know this is a poor state to be in. I get episodes of emotion-like responses that seem to have no obvious trigger and they distract and disturb me as they impair my concentration and contribute to my general state thats difficult to describe.

Any help would be appreciated.[/QUOTE]


Do you mean like remembering the oddest moments and just reenacting the emotions involved with the moment, but at the same time feeling sad because you know its not real and just a memory? I feel the same way a lot of times. It may be depression.. and I recommend seeing a doctor for it if you have trouble overcoming it yourself.





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