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I was not sure if this thread should go in pregnancy or miscarriage, but it deals with both.

I miscarried at 8 weeks on Christmas Day, 2004. It was my first pregnancy and I had been ttc for over 5 years. Weight loss helped me get my hormones more regulated, apparently. My Dr. did not give me a D and C (I passed all of the pregnancy in emergency room) because she thinks it leaves potential scarring (I am still not sure I agree with this decision). I bled for 2 months after that, until finally she put me on birth control pills to get my cycles regulated. I took them for 3 months.

I am pregnant again, after my first month of ttc. I am very early along (5 weeks, I think, I see ob gyn next week). I am so afraid that I will miscarry again that I can't think about anything else. I don't know whether to prepare for the worst or hope for the best. Every time I have a small cramp I get scared but then when I don't feel anything at all, I get scared too.

Is there anything I can do to try to have a succesful pregnancy this time? I know its a silly question. Miscarriages can not always be prevented. But I still keep thinking there is something I can do differently. I am eating well (lost over 60 lbs in the last year but am still in overweight category), and exercising lightly (walking outside or on treadmill). I am also trying to rest and not get too stressed (hard - I work full time and am completing a master's degree).

Also - what kind of odds do I have for a healthy pregnancy after a miscarriage? Does anyone have any experience with this they could share?

Thanks in advance.
hello I too had a miscarriage w/ my first in January of 2005. I did have a D&C. I just got my second af back. So I will be TTC soon.
I know that I will be as scared as you are now but this is the way I see it:

When I was pregnant there was no greater feeling in the world, yea I was SICK but the feeling of love that I had for a person I had never met was amazing. It is a feeling I find hard to describe. Even though my pregnancy only lasted 11 weeks I got to experience that wonderful feeling which some women do not even get because they are unable to BECOME pregnant. SO I told myself with my next pregnancy I am just going to enjoy each day that I am pregnant and all of the wonderful feelings. Hopefully each day will turn to weeks and then months and I will have a healthy baby at 9 months. I hope this outlook helps. If anything know you are not alone and many women feel exactly the same. God Bless!--rach
I m/c in Mar & now am ttc - the pregnancy was an oops - but a very happy one. Dh & I had talked for years about it, but timing didn't seem right & he wasn't fully convinced yet. The oops changed all that & I was THRILLED. The m/c was very hard & I do wonder if I'ill enjoy a BFP or me scared to death, but I've been thinking more like Rach. It was possibly the happiest I've ever been & I'm going to try like heck to hold onto that. I think that after you've had your heart broken by your first love, you think you'll never love a boy as fully again, and you think that after that joy, that turned to pain, you'll never be that freely happy again - you have to try to love fully & be fully happy & leave the rest to faith. I would want to know that my mom spent more time smiling while she carried me, than furrowing her brow in worry. And we all know that worry can't stop anything - so try your best not focus on that. Prayers & happy thoughts sent your way - Beck

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