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Reading the stories of other womens' experiences with painful miscarriage makes me feel like I'm not alone. I recently had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, most likely due to a blighted ovum. The process started with a brownish discharge that started as light spotting and then got heavier over the next three days. The evening before my 12 week appointment with my midwife, I started to get some cramping and then the brown discharge turned into bleeding with blood clots. I knew that it was most likely the start of a miscarriage. I went to my appointment the next morning, and like I had suspected, there were no heart sounds. I had a an ultrasound which showed a gestational sac but no fetus, and my uterus was the size of a large grapefruit!

I was told to expect cramping and bleeding and that I would eventually expel a fleshy sac the size of my palm, at which point the cramping would become less. NOBODY warned me of the contractions I would feel when the uterus began to expel the contents. I experienced mild contractions throughout the day that progressively got worse. Then around 7pm it hit me. The contractions were so intense I turned white, was shaking and sweating, and was light headed. The worst part was there was very little rest in between. My husband timed the contractions - 2 minutes in duration with about 30 sec in between. I felt like they were coming on top of each other. I tried every position imaginable to help ease the pain. I found that sitting in a chair with an aromatherapy heating pad on my abdomen was the least excruciating. This went on for about 4 and a 1/2 hours, and towards the end, I was so exhausted I started to actually dose off in b/n contractions. This was the worst physical pain I had ever experienced, and it seemed like it would never end. Labor pain without a baby at the end! Horrible. I didn't take any medication for the pain, just water and orange juice in between contractions when I started to feel faint. (I plan on having a water birth at home, so I'm guessing this is good preparation.)

I passed a lot of blood clots during that night, but no gestational sac. The next day I had mild contractions off and on, with more bleeding. It wasn't until 2am the next morning that I passed the sac. It's now 4:30am and I'm still cramping and unable to sleep. I'm wondering how long the cramping/bleeding will last?? :(

I do feel like women should be informed on what to expect with a miscarriage. I know every experience is different, but I would have liked to have been warned that I could experience hours of labor contractions! I was disappointed our health care providers did not warn us.
I have been very reassured to read all your posts. This has been a very difficult week for me, and I hope by sharing my story, I can help someone else avoid what I had to go through alone. I was 10 wks with my first pregnancy when I started spotting with reddis-brown spots, so I immediately went in to see my Ob. On u/s, she informed us that I had a blighted ovum and would miscarry soon. My husb and I were devastated. I have vulvar vestibulitis, and it took us 3 yrs of physiotherapy and treatment to get to this stage. The dr told me that I would most likely have "cramps like the worst period you've ever had", and that was it, I was sent on my way and told to come back in a week. Well, I continued spotting and when I went back this past Tuesday and was told the sac was still inside. This time I was told nothing further on what to expect. My husb left for NY for work, and I went into work that day. By 6pm, I started cramping and bleeding more severely. I decided that I just need to get home to lie down. Half way home, as I'm driving on the freeway, I feel a gush of blood come out of me and the blood just drained right out of my head, and I blacked out for a few sec, I signalled and slowed onto an exit and parked on the side of the road hoping a police officer would see me and come over. I lay down in my car for 20 min with the a/c on full blast, writhing in pain and alternately sweating and shivering. Finally, I felt the worst of it pass, so I drove to a drive-in and got some coke to give me some energy. I felt slightly better so I drove the rest of the way home, everytime I had a contraction, I would just grip the steering wheel as tight as I could.
Once home, I got much worse and I called my husb in ny, he listened to me go through 1 or 2 contractions and told me to call 911, which I did. I had no idea what was happening to me. I thank God for the people that came to help me that night, they took me straight to the ER and were so caring. I was having contractions every 2 minutes, but by the time I got to the er, they were coming much closer together. I cannot even describe the level of pain, I was in a fog during a contraction, on a scale of 1-10, I was a off the chart, the worse pain of my life. It took the air out of my lungs. They gave me IV demerol which did nothing for me. Finally, the OB on-call came in and I finally passed the placenta, 4 hrs after my contractions started getting really bad. I then passed out from sheer exhaustion and took a cab home early the next morning. I am SO upset that my OB did not tell me that there was a chance that I could bleed heavily and black out, or hemmorhage! Not to mention the severity of the pain, these were not "bad period cramps!"
It has been 4 days since my ordeal, and I'm finally feeling more like myself physically, but I dont' think I'll get over the emotional trauma of what I had to go through alone.
Why don't these OB dr's tell you what to expect? I will be addressing this question at my follow-up visit with my Ob this wednesday. My heart goes out to everyone else that had to go through this, the only thing that has helped me feel better is knowing that there are other women that went through this and went on to have successful pregnancies.





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