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Labor is just regular contractions that dilate the cervix. What you exerienced with your m/c was labor.

I feel that full term contractions are more intense because they last longer and are stronger but they are not always as painful. I'm not sure how else to describe it. When the cervix dilates from about 7cm to 10cm you're considered to be in what's called "transition". It is typically by far the most painful part and for many people it will be the most pain they will ever experience in their life BUT it does not usually last more than an hour (and many times is much shorter; my transition is only 10 minutes).

I feel that contractions in a m/c are very similar to contractions that dilate the cervix from 0-7cm which is most of your contractions during labor. The feeling with a live birth is typically more intense (not more painful necessarily) also because the overall size of the uterus is much larger.

You also have to factor in a full term sized baby pressing on the cervix and pelvic organs. If there is a malpresentation contractions can be extremely difficult to get through.

I do not have easy labors so I may be the wrong person to be asking :) . I know women who's labors are extremely easy and I know women like myself who have extremely difficult labors. My MIL has had 11 children and with a couple of the babies she woke up pushing (must be nice :rolleyes: ).

I really wish I could explain it better but in reality it's so variable. I do think that f/t contractions require more concentration and focus but m/c is perceived to be far more difficult because of the trauma associated with it.

I won't lie transition contractions are extremely painful and difficult. They come every 1 1/2-3 minutes and last 60-90 seconds long. They require an incredible amount of perseverence. However, women do it every day and most of them will go on to do it again :) .

Love and Prayers, Kelly
I am sorry for your loss. I know how you feel. I went through a miscarriage March 26, I was in my 10th week by the time it started - I had a blighted ovum. By the time the miscarriage was in full swing it was about 8:00pm on a Saturday - I woke my dh up at 2:30am due to the pain - he sat with me and rubbed my back - i told him not to as it made it worse. I was in severe back labour. This went on all night - my dh had enough - and on Sunday afternoon we went to the er - i was admitted as I was bleeding alot and in so much pain. I was put on iv and offered demerol which I refused due to I heard it makes you nausious and I didn't need that on top of everything else. This pain carried on until Sunday evening when I passed the sac - it was intact and it didn't look like a blood clot.
After that passed the pain was more like period cramping. I had an u/s at 12pm Monday and had to have the d&c that night due to products in the upper part of my uterus.
The pain I experienced was contractions but at the time I didn't know (first pregnancy) and explained the pain as "coming and going" - these are contractions. I have to say the pain was intense - the most pain I ever experienced - I cried alot and when it was over I said I would never do that again but I also said it would have been more tolerable if I had something at the end of it (my baby) which I didn't.
My ob said it would be like a heavy period with cramping - it was nothing like that at all. I told him after it happened how I was not expecting that much pain and especially the back pain.
Like some of the other girls I also had alot of nausea before it all started and I was also dizzy and lightheaded several days before it started.
I had a long recovery after the d&c - several months before I had no pain or cramping at all.
I would like to think that a pregnancy wouldn't be as bad but like the other poster said - every pregnancy is different. At least I know what labour pains will be like and although it frightens me to do that again - a little bundle of joy may make it all worthwhile. I think my dh is also scared - the whole experience took alot out of him as he watched me go through everything without being able to help me.
Gees, the pain we go through, if it were left up to men to populate the world it would be empty. We women as a gender should be proud of how strong we really are.
Reading the stories of other womens' experiences with painful miscarriage makes me feel like I'm not alone. I recently had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, most likely due to a blighted ovum. The process started with a brownish discharge that started as light spotting and then got heavier over the next three days. The evening before my 12 week appointment with my midwife, I started to get some cramping and then the brown discharge turned into bleeding with blood clots. I knew that it was most likely the start of a miscarriage. I went to my appointment the next morning, and like I had suspected, there were no heart sounds. I had a an ultrasound which showed a gestational sac but no fetus, and my uterus was the size of a large grapefruit!

I was told to expect cramping and bleeding and that I would eventually expel a fleshy sac the size of my palm, at which point the cramping would become less. NOBODY warned me of the contractions I would feel when the uterus began to expel the contents. I experienced mild contractions throughout the day that progressively got worse. Then around 7pm it hit me. The contractions were so intense I turned white, was shaking and sweating, and was light headed. The worst part was there was very little rest in between. My husband timed the contractions - 2 minutes in duration with about 30 sec in between. I felt like they were coming on top of each other. I tried every position imaginable to help ease the pain. I found that sitting in a chair with an aromatherapy heating pad on my abdomen was the least excruciating. This went on for about 4 and a 1/2 hours, and towards the end, I was so exhausted I started to actually dose off in b/n contractions. This was the worst physical pain I had ever experienced, and it seemed like it would never end. Labor pain without a baby at the end! Horrible. I didn't take any medication for the pain, just water and orange juice in between contractions when I started to feel faint. (I plan on having a water birth at home, so I'm guessing this is good preparation.)

I passed a lot of blood clots during that night, but no gestational sac. The next day I had mild contractions off and on, with more bleeding. It wasn't until 2am the next morning that I passed the sac. It's now 4:30am and I'm still cramping and unable to sleep. I'm wondering how long the cramping/bleeding will last?? :(

I do feel like women should be informed on what to expect with a miscarriage. I know every experience is different, but I would have liked to have been warned that I could experience hours of labor contractions! I was disappointed our health care providers did not warn us.
This has probably been one of the hardest weeks of my life, I had no idea what it meant really when they told me at the hospital 2 Fridays ago that I had a miscarriage. My husband and I were upset, but we felt it must have not been meant to be, and we would try again as soon as we could. They didn't warn us about what was going to happen or really explain anything to me at all. They sent me home and told me to follow up with my dr on Monday. Spotting brought me to the ER and nothing much more happened over the weekend, But when I called my dr, she was no help either, and they told me to just wait until my appt that I already had scheduled for Wednesday (which was set weeks ago for my first ultrasound).

Then Monday night, was when the shit hit the fan. I basically went into labor, with contractions and everything. I didn't know what the hell was going on, or why it was happening, and I was scared. I was in so much pain, all I could do was just lay there and cry. There was very sharp pains shooting through my uteras, and what felt like all over down there. I was so scared, I couldn't even react. If any of the doctors had even warned me that this was going to happen I may have been more prepared for it and dealt with it better, but I just had no idea. So then Tuesday morning, I started having dizzy spells, I was freezing, and felt really bad nausea, and I felt like I was going to pass out. I was afraid I was going to pass out any second, or throw up, or both. So as I leaned on the toilet, I called the dr's office again, and ofcourse my dr was unavailable as usual, so they asked me if I wanted to see a different doctor in the office. I didn't care who the hell I saw, I just needed some help!

The Doctor was really really nice and he did help me feel alot better. He told me I was probably through the worst of it, and he couldn't believe no one had educated me on what was going to happen or given me options of what I could do. He ended up giving me some pills that would basically induce labor, just incase everything wasn't finished. He told me it could get much worse, but then it should finish out within 24-48 hours. So I took them, but nothing much happened as far as getting worse, and the cramps have actually gotten better, although the bleeding was still really bad. I think I pretty much went through the worst of it and finished everything Monday night & Tuesday morning. I was worried, because it didn't seem like the bleeding was getting any better, but thank god, over this weekend it seems to have lightened up quite a bit. The dr did schedule a D&C for me on Monday, just incase it doesn't get better, but now I don't think that will be necessary.

So there is the lowdown of what I have been through. It is kinda nice to talk about it all and share it, it seems like the more I do, the better I feel. I have had a lot of support from my husband, friends and family. And many have shared their stories with me now too. I just wish someone who had gone through it, had told me before hand! I had no ideal what a toll this was going to take on me, both physically and emotionally. But I am starting to really feel better. The cramps are pretty much gone, and my hormones are starting to feel a little more in check ( I didn't even mention the crazy hormones I have been dealing with!).

I think if I had known everything I know now, and was given the option, I would have wanted to get the D&C done from the very beginning, to avoid the immense pain that passing it naturally caused. But thankfully, everything seems to have turned out okay in the end.





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