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My sister in-law had a D & C last July, she experienced a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks, they have been trying again to get pregnant since the end of August. Is it true that it takes longer to conceive again after having a D & C? Any ideas as to why it may be taking them so lond to get pregnant again? When they conceived the first time-it had taken them 5 mths. They have no children and she is starting to give up hope, any suggestions?
I'm not sure what your SIL is doing as far as efforts... Is she charting her bbt's, her mucus? I know it might not be exactly the things you talk about w/ her - or maybe it is.... but there are things you can do to increase your chances of conceiving & without knowing what she's been doing, it's hard to say. You may want to find those things out - or as much info as you can & then ask some more questions on the TTC (trying to conceive) board - the ladies there are often experts at what all you can do without any medical intervention. There are message boards specially for ttc after miscarriage, which can really be it's own kind of thing, and she may really benefit from the support of others that have been there, same as her. Many of us on the TTC board have had m/c's ourselves & understand the frustrations that come with the loss & the struggle to keep positive about future pg's. Good luck to her & thankfully she has a good SIL like you to care so much about her! ~Beck
Thank-you beck12 for your response and information. She is doing the Billings Ovulation Method to chart her monthly cycle. She is considering having fertility testing done in October. But her dr seems to think that since she has been pregnant before that it is only a matter of time. I feel so bad for her, I know how frustrated she must be. I have 2 children of my own and thankfully have never had a miscarriage. But my second child took us 5 years to conceive! I gave up after a year of trying but wasn't too concerned as I already had a child (while on the bc pill might I add) but 5 years after going off the bc pill I found myself pregnant with my 2nd absolutely beautiful son. I'm 38 now and if I knew I could carry a healthy baby for her to term-I would. But I also know they don't have the funds for that type of procedure. I'm sure she will get pregnant when the timing is right, I just wish I could give her the same hope I have.
Hi Dana,
Thanks for your post, the funny thing is my SIL's name is Dana too! I try to give her hope and to stay positive and to keep smiling. I feel so bad for her, she has wanted children for ages. Have you had any fertility testing done? She is contemplating having this done but must wait until the end of October (3 mths after the D&C). She is trying the Billings Ovulation Method so maybe this will work. Two other aquantainces have tried this method of charting their cycles and they were both pregnant by the 3rd mth. Have you been trying anything to increase chances of fertility? I'm not sure that they would go as far as fertility drugs. In a small way, I understand your frustration with TTC. I had a son while on bc pills 14 years ago now. So when my husband and I were ready to have a second child (my son was 4 1/2) I expected to get pregnant within the first month-but no. At 6 mths I was getting pretty depressed and by 1 year I had given up hope. By 2 years I had come to terms that I was only meant to have 1 child and sorta came to terms with it. And guess August of 2000 I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant and my second beautiful son was born in April 2001. The 2 kids are within days of being 10 yrs apart and it took us 5 yrs to conceive our second child. I was 34 when my second son was born and if I knew I could have gotten pregnant right away after my second son was born I would have absolutely had a third child but even though I had 2 children already I couldn't stand the thought of not getting pregnant right away as my biological clock was starting to tick.
I'm sorry that you have to go through this too. It just doesn't seem fair. It does seem like those that want children the most have the hardest times.
Good luck from the bottom of my heart and keep us posted,

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