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Hi pam,

I am so sorry for your losses. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I am 23 been married for two years and over the course of a year and a half, I have had 3 m/c's one right after the other. The first two were very early on 6+ wks and 8+wks. This last one at the end of Sept. I was farther along at 4 months. I was so sure this was the one to stay and I began to let my guard down because there were no signs of an impending m/c that preg was so differ than the other two...not until I went in to hear the heart beat for a 2nd time and there was no longer one there did we find out my daughter had died. I didn't find out the sex till the analysis after my surgery.

After my first m/c I had hope. Everyone told me the next one would be healthy and statistics were all for me. After #2 I was worried and very sad..but statistics were still for me so the hope remained....I got preg straight after #2 with no period in between. After this last one I was so numb and thoughts began to enter my mind I never thought would, like...what if I don't ever have a baby of my own..what if the reason I can't imagine what it feels like to be a mom is because Im not destined to be one. what if ...what if ...what if. I began to lose my hope and statistics are beginning to NOT be in my favor. But......one thing I and you too should be thankful for is we are still so so young and we have many potential childbearing years ahead. Who knows what the world of medicine might find out. They have done many tests on me and have found nada which is frustrating...But I went to a RE after this last one and he basically said to not get preg till Dec. and when I menstrate next month come in and he will began certain tests...with clomid as [B]Believe[/B] said above and also with me try an aspirin regimen and progestrone supplements. I don't know, we shall see.


Don't give up, do your own research and make sure you question the doctor. Ask to have some tests done and if that doesn't help, ask to be referred to a Reproductive Endocrinologists (RE) who specializes in these problems.... My insurance even paid for the RE visit because I don't have problems with infertility, I get pregnant very easily I have recurring miscarriages so they could bill the company with that and they pay for that. It may be the same for you.Remember..this is YOUR body and YOUR hope to be a mom.

Love your husband. M/c's especially recurring ones, can put a strain on a marriage and they can either drive a couple apart or bring them closer together. Don't let it put a stress in your relationship. I don't know how your husband is handling these losses but chances are differently than you. Men just do that and it can be hard. Communication is key though. Good luck and know you can always talk to the ladies on this board they are pretty dang great.

Take care, Jess





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