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Firstly, my thoughts & prayers are with you & DH & i hope that there is some other reason for the bleeding.

Secondly.... i hate the way that Drs & OBs always relate miscarriage to painful cramps & A LOT of red blood, because as many of us who have experienced a miscarriage know.... this is not always the case!

I had a missed miscarriage at 17 weeks & my baby had actually died between 12 & 13 weeks, however i was oblivious to this until i hit 17 weeks & one morning i woke up early morning (about 4am) to a wet bed. (Which i thought at the time i had wet the bed accidentally due to the pressure from the baby on my bladder).... however i thought it was a bit strange that i hadn't woken up to go to the toilet, because usually i'm a very light sleeper & wake up 3 or 4 times during the night to pee.

Anyhow..... in saying that, i didn't think anymore of it (because i didn't think there could have been anything else it could have been) & i had a shower & when i got out & grabbed my towel, i noticed a drop of browny coloured blood drip onto the bath mat & then when i wiped there was a little more (still brownish), so i put a pad on & went back to bed & woke in the morning & rechecked my pad. By this time my pad had a fair bit more blood in it, however it was still a brownish colour & looked as though it was watered down kind of :confused: (In hindsight i now know that it looked watered down because it was mixed with amniotic fluid, but at the time i sisn't give it a second thought).

So with this, i called my local hospital & the staff in the maternity ward said that they would check me with a doppler & to come in asap. When i arrived, i waited about 45 mins & then i was taken through to a room by the nurse & she checked for my baby's heartbeat using the fetal doppler. She said to me (and this made me feel sick to my stomach after everything had sunk in & i wasn't sooo numb.... which was about 2 or 3 days later), that "Wow.... you either have a very athletic baby or a very active bowel", & she continued to say the same as what yours told you..... "There you go, i think i just had it, but your baby's moving around too much so i can't get it properly". I too couldn't hear much going on inside & all i could hear was my own heartbeat slightly & also just the occasional gurgling sound...... like just my stomach doing it's job! SO anyhow, i told her i was not convinced & with this, she asked another nurse to have a go with the doppler & see what she thought.

This nurse said the same thing about that my baby was moving around too fast for her to get a proper indication, however she said that she was quite sure that she had & that with the small bleed that i had experienced & the fact that i had no cramping or abdominal discomfort.... that i was fine to go home. (I know that nurses aren't allowed to tell you that you have miscarried.... but if they are unsure or without really obvious 100% sureness, i don't think they should say anything at all..... especially not things that are designed to raise your hopes (about my "very athletic baby".... becasue they found out later that my "very athletic baby" wasn't moving at all.... because she had died weeks earlier) & then set you up for a lorger fall in the long run. They just shouldn't have said anything at all.

She then told me that she would call the Dr on duty & just double check that it was ok for me to go home (which i was going to protest, because i just knew something wasn't right... i had the gut feeling), & then it turned out that 3 other women (all pregnant) needed to see the same OB who just so happened to be mine aswell, so they didn't bother calling the Dr on duty, they just called my OB & mentioned there was 4 women all needing advise.... so he just said to stay put for 10 mins & he'd be there shortly, so that's what i did.

He turned up & saw 2 of the other ladies infront of me because they were there first & during that time i went to the toilet maybe twice just to keep an eye on what blood i was losing & by this time it had turned red, however it was not just running out of me & soaking my pad. Infact, there was nothing, but a couple of spots of brown blood from earlier that day in my pad & it was only when i sat on the toilet, that the red blood dripped (but not much at all.... a couple of drops per wee & a bit of a smear on the toilet paper).

So then when i got to see my OB, he was very patient as always & tracked down the ultrasound machine which the nurses are not allowed/not trained to use & he talked to me about my symptoms.... not seeming too worried at this point because i'd had spotting at 6, 8 & 10 weeks & he thought that this might just be another one of those. Anyway i mentioned to him how i had wet the bed & that's when it occurred to me that it may not have been urine & that it could have been amniotic fluid! I asked him the question whether it could be & he asked whether it smelt sweet & whether it was coloured in any way, but i couldn't answer this because when it happened i just stripped the bed straight away, not even thinking anything like that.... so i wasn't sure.

When he was scanning my tummy, he kept looking at the screen funny & angling his head etc & i could just tell by the way that he was quiet & his expressions that something was wrong, so i looked at the screen & saw my baby laying on it's side & i said "Is that my baby" & he replied, "Yes, but it doesn't appear to have much fluid around it, & it's also looking very small for 17 weeks also". So then he confirmed there was no heartbeat & also did an internal & said my uterus was quite low & talked to DH & i for a bit & then gave us a minute to ourselves while he checked the availability of beds in another hospital about an hours drive away. He said that it would probably be best to have the D&C done sooner rather than later for my own sake & to save me having to go the weekend with my baby inside me, so we agreed & went & packed my overnight bag & set off to the other hospital.

When we arrived at the hospital, we were walking through the doors & i felt something pass into my underwear (there was no pain whatsoever) so i asked the triage nurse if i could borrow the toilet & told her what had happened & she took me through. So when i checked my knickers, there was my baby (sorry if TMI or if this is disturbing to anyone) & i picked her up with a tissue (i felt a slight pull.... like the umbilical cord possibly coming disattached) & placed her in a container to have her tested etc. The nurses then did swabs & then sent me up to my room where i waited to go into surgery & that happened about midnight. I didn't have any ill-effects after my surgery & i recovered physically very quickly..... however emotionally took some time for both DH & i :yawn:

Anyhow... long story short. I had NO cramping at all & i had a miscarriage! I also had only spots of brown blood & a couple of red spots & i miscarried! So you should take these responses from people on these boards to your OBs office & show them so that we can build their awareness on these issues...... the ones that they are suppose to be trained & qualified to know!!! It just really gets to me that they won't see you asap :mad: I know that if a miscarriage has happened that there is nothing they can do about it..... but they don't realise that leaving us without any confirmation & letting us just dwell on it hurts us sooo much!!! All they need to do is give us the answer we need & then we can deal with it in whatever way is necessary, but they just think that if there's nothing that they can do.... then we're best off at home! The best thing they CAN do is let us know.... one way or the other :confused:

Anyhow..... please know that my thoughts are with you & DH & i'm sorry if my post has frightened you in any way, that was not my intention..... i just wanted to be honest like you asked! This, by no means..... means that i think that you may be experiencing a miscarriage, because i cannot say that one way or the other, however i do know that any bleeding & especially accompanied by cramps SHOULD be taken seriously by your OB.

I am praying for you all & your baby ;)

Best wishes, Crystal xoxoxox

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