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I posted earlier but did not get much of a response. I was told at 10 weeks I would miscarry. I was told after ultra sound I was only measuring 6 weeks and no heart beat? (I swear the tech told the doc a low numbered heart beat?? I cannot be sure, I was in such shock I didn't really listen very well. I just wanted out of there.) The sac measured 8 weeks.

I am almost 11 weeks now. My doctor said I would have a heavy period in the next fes weeks. My questions are:

It has been almost 5 weeks since the pregnancy stopped, shouldn't I start bleeding, cramping SOMETHING??? I have NO SYMPTOMS YET??

My doctor did not mention a d & c. How long do I wait before suggesting one??

I do not even know my blood type. My sister is pregnant and going through the whole RH neg thing. She is telling me to make sure I am not Negative!!

I guess I am just very confused. I am still trying to get over this and do not like waiting............. It is bad enough to know you have lost you pregnancy, waiting to pass it is awfull!!!!! Please help with some advise or similar experiences.
WARNING: post may contain TMI

Hi kkmb, first I want to say that I am so so sorry that you are going through this. My story is very similar to yours. I got pg in April this year and at my 7 week u/s in June found out that the pg wasn't viable. I opted for a natural m/c instead of a d&c. My dr. told me that it would be like a very heavy period with stronger cramping. My m/c didn't happen until July 4th. I was experiencing really uncomfortable cramps all day on the 3rd. Then around 11:30pm they started getting more painful and were lasting longer and longer and I was also bleeding and passing clots. Needless to say the cramps were really contractions. After 2 hours I had the final contraction that helped me finally pass a large amount of tissue. I have to be honest and say that the pain I experienced was nothing I had before. It was a very traumatizing thing to go through. Having said that I, I have to in all honesty say that it was the most cathartic experience I've ever had. I think there was something really profound in going through physical pain that matched my emotional pain. At the end of that final contraction, when the tissue passed and the pain started to subside I felt a kind of peace settle on me.

The only thing that I regret is that I was not told how painful it could get. I'm sure that there are plenty of women who didn't feel what I did, but it woud have eased my mind to know that I might have actual labor pain. I've always known that I would try for unmedicated birthing, so I've been learning as much as I can about labor pain management. I think if I'd been better informed I wouldn't have been as scared as I was.

I'm sorry that this is such a long post, but I wanted to share what I wished someone had shared with me. I should've been at 12 weeks when I m/c, I think that's around where you are right now. I understand how difficult this is for you. I hope you are feeling better today. Feel free to vent about all and any of your feelings. I'll be thinking about you.

KkMB... Please have a D & C done. I was told the same thing... the baby stopped developing at six weeks. My body wasn't doing anything about it. I was getting bigger and my HCG levels were increasing. I ended up having a D & C last Wednesday at about nine weeks. I had so many complications and ended up having to have an emergency D & C on Friday. This was due to infection b/c I carried the baby for a while after it stopped growing. Ask your doctor for a D & C. That would be my recommendation. It is not a bad procedure and then you can move on.


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