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Hi, I'm new here and hope I am on the right board and since this seems to be the most appropriate spot I could find I thought I would seek out some advice and support from parents who have been there or are in the same boat as me. ;)

Our 16 year old is just finishing up her junior year of high school. We have definitely had our share of issues as she strives for independence but she is generally a great kid who gets excellent grades, has a tight knit group of friends since kindergarten, and has alot going for her. We have met with her guidance counselor and are looking into what colleges she may be interested in and the whole process of finding the right college for her.

Some of the things we are struggling with is the pressure from other parents and family members in not having visited any colleges with her as of yet. Up until recently she really didn't seem to focus in on any particular ones despite our coaxing her. She seemed to think that she would stay home but recently expressed an interest in going away. She has one particular college that she likes but the school is no longer in session. It would be a big trip for us and my daughter really would like to visit....it is a very competitive school and my husband & I have mixed feelings of making a visit to an empty campus so far away. My daughter also agrees that she would like to go when other students are there. They have a summer session until June 17th in which approximately 100 students are enrolled and resume full open campus on August 27th. We agree that she should definitely see the school....friends & family members are mixed in saying we should definitely visit before she applies or apply & then visit. The application fee is minimal $20, she has taken only one SAT and will be taking a second in June along with her first ACT. The scores on her 1st SAT definitely meet the admission requirements but she would like to see if she can get them up or do better on the ACT's.


I would really appreciate any advice other parents could give me in terms of if we are on schedule with going through the steps of preparing our daughter for college. Only a few of her friends have visited campuses and some friends advise us not to until after she actually has applied, however, I think a feel for the campus/college is important. Thanks for your patience and I look forward to any support/advice others may have.

~Ivorygirl :wave:
Honestly, I wouldn't even bother looking at Wesley College. It really isn't that great of a school, unless your daughter wants to go into education. University of Delaware has a good reputation and I'm guessing that maybe 2/3 of my graduating class is going there. You are right, UD is a large school. According to collegeboard, there are 16,023 degree seeking undergrads and 3,395 grad students at UD. About 45% of students are accepted. 86% of students return their sophmore year. 76-100% of students had a HS GPA of 3.0 or above. [COLOR=Red]THE SAT SCORE RANGES ARE FROM THE OLD SAT WHERE IT ONLY WENT UP TO 1600![/COLOR] The middle 50% of SAT verbal scores range from 540-630 and the middle 50% of SAT math scores range from 560-650. Remember that 25% of the students had a lower score and 25% had a higher score. Maybe those statistics can help you get a feel for your daughter's likelyhood of being accepted.
If you wanted to know, Wesley College accepts about 60% of applicants. There are 1,644 degree seeking undergrads and 136 grad students. 51-100% of students had a HS GPA of 2.0-2.99. 52% of students return for their sophmore year. Middle 50% of SAT verbal scores range from 460-530 and middle SAT math scores range from 470-530. Like I said before, 25% of the people had higher scores and 25% had lower scores.
Heck...I'll look up Quinnipiac and Central Conn for you too...
At Quinnipiac, 55% of applicants are accepted. There are 5,329 degree seeking undergrads and 1,105 grad students. 50-75% of students have a HS GPA of 3.0 or higher. 86% of students return their sophmore year. Middle 50% of SAT verbal scores are 510-590 and the middle 50% of SAT math scores are 540-610.
Central Connecticut accepts 61% of it's applicants. There are 9,016 degree seeking undergrads and 2,716 grad students. 78% of students return their sophmore year. Middle 50% of SAT ranges are 470-560 verbal and 470-570 math.
REMEMBER, THE SAT SCORES I GAVE YOU ARE FROM THE OLD SAT WHERE THE SCORES ONLY WENT UP TO 1600!!!

Honestly, I really didn't use any books to help me write my essay. I think more than anything, I took the advice of what the colleges told us at the open houses. They all pretty much said...write about something important to you, we want to get to know something about who you are, don't write about something you think we would like to read, make it personable. The essay really doesn't need to be about anything life changing either because they want you to keep it around 500 words, or at least all on one page. If I remember right, the jist of my essay was that I fell on my knee in a bowling tournament, because I hurt my knee I couldn't bowl in nationals that year but it's ok because I would try again next year, I had major knee surgery where I was in a full leg cast and on crutches, I was trying to make microwaveable french fries all by myself and my crutch knocked the fries to the ground, out of sheer frustration I started bawling, partly because I knocked the fries on the floor, but also because I finally realized that I can't always do things by myself which was something I wasn't used to. That one incident showed me that I really need to ask for help when I'm over my head and that it's ok to ask for help. Basically, instead of crying over spilled fries, I'm going to ask for help in the future. That's the jist of my college essay. It showed something that I'm very interested in (bowling), it shows that I have aspirations (nationals), it showed that I'm flexible (trying to make nationals the next year), it showed that I had to overcome something (surgery), it showed that I'm independent (trying to make fries when I was on crutches, how crazy was that?), it showed realization and growth (knowing that I need to ask for help when I need it and that it is ok).
To help me get started with a topic (that was the hardest part) someone suggested that I ask people what they think of when they hear my name, and most said bowling, so I knew that would be a great topic for me. Once I wrote my essay (the second time around) and liked it, I asked people who knew me to read it and tell me how well it represents me. I asked my mom, a few teachers, a few coaches, a few friends, my neighbors, my pastor...I think that's it. Once I got other people's view of how well the essay represented me, I went back and gramatically corrected the essay and tried to use better words than I used before (like instead of "I cried because I was frustrated" I could say "I began bawling in utter frustration"). Once I liked it, I put it away for 3 or 4 days, looked at it again to see if there is anything I wanted to change, and I kept looking at it every few days until I needed to send in the essay.

Has your daughter taken the SAT at all, either the new or old one? What did she score? Is she planning on taking a full course load next year? (If not, she needs to...it's like brownie points for admission people...alot of colleges are weighing that into their decisions now). Does she have anything in mind for a major? Or an area of interest? I knew I wanted to major in the sciences, and by October of my senior year I was dead set on being a neuroscience major...that really weeded out alot of schools because not many offer that major. So that's another way to narrow down colleges if she does have a major (or even 2 or 3) in mind. Does she want to go to a large or small school? What kind of location - rural, urban, suburban? Does she want to go to a public or private school? Are there any clubs or sports that she is interested in participating in while in college? Does she want anything specific from a college? Like I wanted a school that would help me to become a better person. At Ursinus they have a mandatory freshman course, where they break students up into groups of 10-15 students, where they read books of all sorts (I have to read Gilgamesh over the summer), and try and talk about how they relate to life - they discuss questions in regards to the books about "what does it mean to be human"..."how should we live our lives"...like the big questions in life. I liked the idea of this course because I feel that in the end, it would make me a better and stronger person in the future. Actually, Harvard has considered mimicking this class for their curriculum. Is she interested in becoming part of a sorority? What kind of campus does she want to be on - secluded (where you know what is campus and what is not) or basically part of the surrounding areas? Are there any anemities that she would like - I wanted the school to have a pool and a nice fitness center, also decent labs and equipment. Is she REALLY interested in having a car (many schools don't allow freshman to have cars except for extenuating circumstances). Well, that's all I could think of right now that you all need to consider.

FYI, when you are looking at schools, find out if they require SAT 2 subject tests. Some of the schools I applied to required the Writing SAT 2 and then 2 more of my choice. They wouldn't require writing anymore because it is part of the new SAT, but some schools may require 2 other SAT 2's.

Good luck on finding a college...let me know how the process is coming along and if you have any more questions or suggestions feel free to ask!!!





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