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I am a stay at home mom and my husband works 7 days a week. I have two girls ages 6 years and 14 months. I have made our days very structured and try to stick to my routine as much as possible. I have been taking some grief from a few family members lately about my children's bed time. I was curious what time any of you put your children of similar age down for bed. Also, do you change this at all for weekends or vacation times? I don't like when I'm made to feel like I am doing something wrong when all I'm trying to do is keep things in a routine. Thanks for any replies!
I have three children ages 7, 5 (both girls) and 15 months (a boy). Two of them are close to your children's ages. I, too, am a routine type person. It must be from my days as an elementary school teacher. So I'm more strict with being home for my son's two naps. We have our "window" where we can head out in the middle of the day. The girls are good about working around that as well.

Night-time routines have changed since it's summer. Right now we're shooting for a 9:00 bedtime, but it's so hard since the kids are outside playing with neighbors in the evening. So it ends up being later. Last week we had out of state visitors, so bedtime ended up being 10:00. It was definitely late, but they kids hadn't seen their grandparents in a year. If there are social activites going on (4th of July, other gatherings) they do stay up later.

School is starting in a couple weeks and we're going to make it earlier and earlier until we are in bed by 8:15. My littlest one will have to adjust his schedule as well. We put all three of ours to bed at the same time.

So we do make exceptions for gatherings and such. I guess I'm more strict on the daytime nap thing than anything. When school starts, though, things will definitely change. I'm just a little more laid back in the summer months.
Good morning Mom's......I was also a very structured mom. Liked my kids taking naps when they needed them and bedtime had little diversion. i taught my daughter the same. She has a boy who is 7 and a little girl turning 5 on 9/1. She is lucky to be a stay at home mom. Kids have always been regular in their naps and bedtime BUT she does divert from bedtime on special occassions and in the summer. They are usually in bed by 9:00 but as the lst poster said sometimes it's 10:00. My daughter is already pallning her stradegy on making this earlier as school is approaching. She did this last year and by the time school came they were pretty good. Sometimes it takes the first week of school for them to be tired enought to go to bed 8:00-8:30 but they fall back into it.

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My husband and I were NOT morning people, so our kids stayed up til about 9 - 9.30 on holidays and weekend, and 8 - 8.30 on schoolnights, until about 11 - 12 yrs old when it went back to 9 - 9.30 to fit in homework etc. 10.00 - 10.30 pm was not unheard of if we had visitors or something on.
Hi! I have a routine with my son as well and he really has needed it since infancy in order to get the rest he needs. There is some flexibility now since at 21 mos his nap is not always on the dot the same time every day. So he has a bedtime of between 7 and 8 and that hardly ever varies no matter if it it the weekend or vacation. There are times when a later bedtime cannot be avoided or it is a special occaision. I go with the flow then. But I tell you, it is rare! My little guy needs the consistency and when he does not get it he is tired and cranky. And I need my downtime too. We as mommmies need a little time to ourselves to be a better mommy the next day IMHO. I really cherish that little bit of time in the evening when I can lay down, read a book for a bit and watch a little tv. LOL I am an older mom of a toddler at 42 and I am tired!
I to am a big routine and structured day mom. I am a STAH to a 26 month old, and soon to be new baby. Ds has a daily nap at 11:30, and is in bed with lights out by 8pm. We do occasionally divert from this if it's a big occasion, but for the most part, we leave where ever we are so he get get to bed. We have realized that if he doesn't get the same sleep routine, then he is MISERABLE. So I could care less what other people think, they don't have to deal with a crabby 2 year old all day!!;)
I have a 15 month old and she goes to bed at 6:30. I have a pretty good routine, not a strict schedule, and she set her bedtime. She was so tired at that time and it seemed crazy to try and fight her to stay up later especially when she'll sleep until 6:30 or 7 in the morning.

My son just turned 7 and he usually goes to bed around 8pm.

Weekends are usually the same unless we have something going on. They both stayed up much later on our last vacation, especially since we were camping.

If your kids bedtimes work for you and them, then it's not anyone else's business!!
Thank you all for your replies! It's nice to know I am not the only SAHM (or parent in general) that is very structured. Don't get me wrong, when we go camping or there are special events going on I am much more relaxed about things, but then again I also have my husband's help at those times too.

My girls are both up by 6am every day. I have tried putting them to bed a little later to see if they sleep a little later but it doesn't work. They still wake up at that time and are just cranky from not getting their usual amount of sleep. Since they are up by 6am I usually have them both down by 7:30pm, of course my 14 month old does take a nap (or 2 depending) during the day.

The main reason I asked this question is because my mother (surprise, surprise) thinks I should be letting my 6 year old stay up later because it's summer vacation. What she doesn't realize is that if she doesn't get at least 10 hours of sleep she is not herself the next day. I have told her several times that this is none of her business, but being my mother she always feels the need to put her two cents in. My nephew is a couple of months older than my daughter and he has been going to bed around 10pm but he also sleeps later in the morning. My mother seems to forget that part.

I'm sure most of you stay at home parents understand the importance of such a routine. Bedtime is pretty much the only break you get all day. I look forward to that nice hour between the girls going to bed and my husband getting home. It is all the "me" time I seem to get these days!
[QUOTE=happymom28;3134661]My girls are both up by 6am every day. I have tried putting them to bed a little later to see if they sleep a little later but it doesn't work. They still wake up at that time and are just cranky from not getting their usual amount of sleep. [/QUOTE]

My daughter is the same, no matter what time she is in bed she still gets up early. She is 7 years old and I just recently moved her official bedtime to 8pm, but she is usually tired sooner than that and in bed between 7-7:30pm.
Yup, us too, if ds goes to bed late, he wakes up at the same time. He NEVER makes up sleep, so that's why we stick to it. Also, youmentioned letting things slide a bit when dh is home to help. You hit the nail on the head for us too. Dh works 6 days a week, so when he is home, it's okay for an hour or so to let the bed time go, but he's not there the next day to deal with a crabby 2 year old..if he was, then maybe I would be more relaxed. My point is that this works for us because ds thrives on a routine, so in turn we all do in this house. Some kids are much more easy going about making up sleep when they need it, but for those parents who's kids don't (our's) then they may just not understand. We get comments from our families about it all the time, but I just try to let it slide......let them think we're crazy!:D My little sister, is 4,a nd has always gone to bed at 11pm. I think it's nuts, but she also takes a 4 hour nap in the afternoon, and my dad and stepmom work late hours in the city, so they have time with her when they get home, so it works for them....to each their own.;)





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