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Hello...I am new to this board. My 8 yr old daughter has begun pulling out the eylashes on the outer corners of her big beautiful brown eyes. I have never heard of this. Can anyone help me help her. Any info is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Welcome, Las!


My friend's daughter did this same thing when she was about 10. If I remember correctly, the doctors thought she may have a disorder that caused her to do it. They thought it was a subconscious thing for her......she was beginning to go through puberty and was dealing with some teasing at school. Most doctors felt that her "pulling" was similar to the "cutting", eating problems or other disorders that some people do to deal with stress or other issues. They felt that the teasing at school may have had a lot to do with her problem. Some doctors wanted to try her daughter on types of depression/anxiety meds. My friend already had antibiotic creams and medicines. Her daughter's eyelashes were thick and long and when she started pulling them (sides first), she just didn't stop until she hardly had any left. This was over a 1 1/2yr period. My friend decided to bypass her family doc and to see an opthamologist after about 6 months. Even then, it took a while to get things straightened out. Not sure exactly which doctor did what (sorry!) but I do remember that my friend didn't want to rush into the "drug route". One doctor recommended that she note when her daughter is MOST likely to "pull" (in her case, in her bedroom at night) and she tried to change the bedtime routine. She would either sleep in the room with her daughter or remain in the room chatting with her until she fell asleep. I guess this kept her mind off of it--anyway, after about 6 weeks, everything was back to normal. That was a several years ago (she is now 15) but she says she still doesn't know why she did it. Maybe you should "investigate" a little deeper and try to figure out if something hidden is bothering her.

This is just my thoughts.....I would definitely see a doctor/specialist with this if it doesn't stop. I remember them telling my friend that some eye disorders can cause it too BUT that if they continue to "pull" it can be very dangerous to their eyes.

Gracious, sorry it was so long! I just hope that you understand what I was trying to say.
Hey I am 20 now and constantly pull my eyelashes, I have done it since I was about 12 and it upset my mother because not only did I pull out my eyelashes I would pull out my eyebrows too sometimes. My 7th grade picture showed my eyebrows had little pars of missing hair where I had pulled them. My mom thought it was psychological and wanted me to see a therapist. When I do it now I find I do it because I am unhappy with something. When I started doing it when I was 12 I had just moved to a new state and was attending a new school. Now I find that I am constantly stressed in a bad relationship, and stressed about college.
my 7 yr old daughter suffers this and has been making a bald spot. i took her to her pediatrician..he said to gently remind her to stop when i see her doing it and to ignore it the rest of the time..dont pressure her, he said. i also took her to a child psych who wants to put her on a strong med called trazedone. i am going to try what the pediatrician suggested first. he did say this disorder is in the ocd group. good luck !
I have this problem!! It's not even psychological for me, my eyelashes are actually itchy and the only thing that helps is pulling them out. I found this on the net:

Demodex folliculorum . There is a popular belief in some communities that Demodex folliculorum contributes to causing hair loss and that removing Demodex will enable hair regrowth. Demodex is a little worm-like creature that likes to live on skin and in hair follicles. Demodex feeds on dead skin and oils, so it particularly likes to live in hair follicles where there are lots of both. It is actually very common. We are born free of Demodex, but during childhood, through contact with others, our skin can become infected by Demodex. About 70% of adults have some Demodex in their hair follicles. For the most part, we never know they are there. They are benign, if repulsive, little creatures. The most common problem with Demodex is that they may cause irritation, particularly in the eyelashes. If you have itchy eyelashes it may be Demodex is the problem. However, this is as much as Demodex can do to you. It does not cause hair loss.

Just noticed at dinner tonight my daughter who is nine is missing chunks of her beautiful black eyelashes. Several weeks ago she said she waspulling the loose ones off that poke in her eye. I was certain she saw someone do this and picked it up. Tonight I asked her why she does this. Number one she said she stopped awhile ago and number two she said she feels like they are sticking up and ready to fall out anyway. That she can feel it when she touches them??? I truly believe it is from anxiety as she is dealing with her father and I divorcing. He is the love of her life as I am as well and it's killing her. Even her school work is falling behind and she is a humanities student. I am seeing a therapist myself to keep things in tack for myself. I think things are worse off for her than I thought. Her academics have definately slipped in one year and it is a shame because it is strictly environmental. I will bring this up immediately to my therapist. I never thought about OCD but I do know she is extremely sensitive to tags in clothes, sweaters etc. She also as a child would drink her bottle and run her fingers ever so slightly across her eye lash. We always wondered how she never poked her eye, yet this was a ritual for her. Seems it has turned to pulling out now. Strange and concerning to say the least. I will check in with more later. Thanks for sharing!
this thread really hits home, I am a 34 yr old who pulls her hair out litterally, For me it is am abandonment issue and it is how I delt with it as a child, Now it is a blind habit, when I am bored or stressed it is how I deal with it. I am guessing but the stories I have read the kids too are using it as a stress management technique. I hope you can get help for your kids. They need to know that everyone is ok and that they are not being abandoned by anyone.

The sad part is it is a type of self mutilation, just like cutting, It needs to be dealt with immediately or they like I will be dealling with it for thier entire lives. THis seems to be passed over as it doesn't seem like anything major, but it is. It can be just as debillitating as other forms of self mutilation.

Best of luck, I hope you can find a Dr. who will take this seriously
I did the same thing when I wasd younger. It got so bad that I literally had no lashes or brows. My parents took me to a dermotologist who diagnosed me with alepicia. I never told anyone because it seems really weird. I started doing it to deal with my anxiety from bullying. Find out what is behind this!!
my son use to do this when he was the same age now he is older he is able to tell me why...he said his eyelashes just really bothered his eyes,he said they would poke and annoy him and thats why he did seems this is one reason but i also know there are medical reasons why too.

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