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WHY IS IT that it is not aloud for people with personality disorders to blame their families. Say the person got it from their family. Why can't they blame their family. I mean if the person geniunly wants to get better but yet the family and friends are so non-compassionate, ignorant, and defensive and highly sensitive....that is just a cultivating grounds for more neurosis etc. So why is it that therapist don't want to hear it? What is all that BS with projective identification or Transference. Well if that was the answer to everything would we be a much happier race /world? Yeah exactly....projection works both ways...it is not just the dude who wants to get help but it is also other peoples projections that make everything much worse and doom and gloom. Who is with me? Does anybody know what I am talking about? In psychology they say it is near im possible for a narcissist to be cured because the narcsissist has to WANT and desire to change....but even then it is like improbable....well that sounds to me as very negatived....what is the deal with psychology it is SUPPOSED to help people. NOt make them BE WORSE. If their family is cultIvating neurosis ...etc...then WHY doesn't the therapist go along with the client to find out ways to avoid family find out why the family is that why how to get around that make friends with people who are not like the family...etc....why does it always ahve to be about the client ...it is always his fault...even if he was abused...always his problem blah blah balh.......how does a client get any help with therapy like that???????????????? :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
[QUOTE=wannabehotguy]WHY IS IT that it is not aloud for people with personality disorders to blame their families. Say the person got it from their family. Why can't they blame their family. I mean if the person geniunly wants to get better but yet the family and friends are so non-compassionate, ignorant, and defensive and highly sensitive....that is just a cultivating grounds for more neurosis etc. So why is it that therapist don't want to hear it? What is all that BS with projective identification or Transference. Well if that was the answer to everything would we be a much happier race /world? Yeah exactly....projection works both ways...it is not just the dude who wants to get help but it is also other peoples projections that make everything much worse and doom and gloom. Who is with me? Does anybody know what I am talking about? In psychology they say it is near im possible for a narcissist to be cured because the narcsissist has to WANT and desire to change....but even then it is like improbable....well that sounds to me as very negatived....what is the deal with psychology it is SUPPOSED to help people. NOt make them BE WORSE. If their family is cultIvating neurosis ...etc...then WHY doesn't the therapist go along with the client to find out ways to avoid family find out why the family is that why how to get around that make friends with people who are not like the family...etc....why does it always ahve to be about the client ...it is always his fault...even if he was abused...always his problem blah blah balh.......how does a client get any help with therapy like that???????????????? :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:[/QUOTE]

Do you understand the distinction between personality disorder are mental illness ? My understanding is that people with personality disorders (narcissists & psychopaths) will never change. It is like being born color blind. Its just the way it is. In my view many of the mentally ill become that way because cause they were in some way bullied or abused by people with personality disorders and yes the root cause of the problem is the people with personality disorders who screw people up not those who get damaged. I think Borderline Personality Disorder is misnamed and and is really more of a psychiatric injury thing or "mental ilness".





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