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Being 16 is hard enough without having to deal with all of this. I think you are really brave to come on the board and post about how you are feeling.

Parents are hard to figure out! When their are other children involved, it is always a dilemma trying to find everyone's "place" in the family. Obviously your mom's bf isnt going to ignore his daughter, and your mom is correct in knowing that if she wants her relationship to work, she has to try with his daughter. That doesnt mean that you should feel left out of the whole equation.

You mentioned that you really liked the conversation you had with your mom where you felt supported. Do you think it is time to sit down with her again and let her know how you are feeling again? You sound very mature- you are being very reasonable- you are NOT saying that anyone is wrong here, but you ARE entitled to having some mom time, and being made to feel that you are a priority too.

The age you are at is tough. So close to being an adult, but still young enough that you need stability in your home....trust me when I promise you your relationship with your mom will still be important 10 or even 20 years from now. You want to make sure it is strong now more than ever! Try talking to her again....let her know that you support her relationship, but that something is missing for you. Maybe it is just having a mom-daughter day once a month- or maybe it is trying to see what SHE sees in the bf- but you wont get anywhere if you dont express how you are feeling and you need her help to get through this!

My thoughts are with you. Please let us know how you are doing!

MSNik
[QUOTE=MSNik;5419396]Being 16 is hard enough without having to deal with all of this. I think you are really brave to come on the board and post about how you are feeling.

Parents are hard to figure out! When their are other children involved, it is always a dilemma trying to find everyone's "place" in the family. Obviously your mom's bf isnt going to ignore his daughter, and your mom is correct in knowing that if she wants her relationship to work, she has to try with his daughter. That doesnt mean that you should feel left out of the whole equation.

You mentioned that you really liked the conversation you had with your mom where you felt supported. Do you think it is time to sit down with her again and let her know how you are feeling again? You sound very mature- you are being very reasonable- you are NOT saying that anyone is wrong here, but you ARE entitled to having some mom time, and being made to feel that you are a priority too.

The age you are at is tough. So close to being an adult, but still young enough that you need stability in your home....trust me when I promise you your relationship with your mom will still be important 10 or even 20 years from now. You want to make sure it is strong now more than ever! Try talking to her again....let her know that you support her relationship, but that something is missing for you. Maybe it is just having a mom-daughter day once a month- or maybe it is trying to see what SHE sees in the bf- but you wont get anywhere if you dont express how you are feeling and you need her help to get through this!

My thoughts are with you. Please let us know how you are doing!

MSNik[/QUOTE]

Thank you so much for the advice, I really appreciate it. I'll try to talk to her more and be more open minded about the situation. I'll keep that in mind, thank you so much again.





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