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[QUOTE=havehope28;5422152]Sounds like your girlfriend has a lot of growing up to do and I personally agree with you that she is being lazy and controlling.
If she is adult enough to move out of her house and into yours then with that comes responsibility. I understand her home life isn't the greatest but plenty of others aren't either. They don't use that as an excuse but use it as a catalyst to help push them to be better.

Her crying everyday about her job and being irresponsible not to be decent enough to give a 2 week notice is very juvenile. You aren't always going to be friends with and like everyone you work with. At the end of the day it's a job and the ends to the means and you have to stick it out until something else better comes along. Her blaming others for her work issues is just an excuse. In all honesty if it was that bad and there was any truth to what she was saying was going on then she should of/would of went to her boss and told them what was going on. But I don't think that was the case. Not only is she being lazy but not being truthful.

When it comes to her not having a drivers license and always depending on...not sure what the back story is surround her not having a license at this point in life or not having a car is. I understand financial reasons for not being able to afford a car, besides not wanting to work and unable to work consistently, but to make her choices or situation someone elses problem is not ok. If she worked hard and saved up she wouldn't be in this situation. Sounds like you are responsible and do what you need to do in order to make things work. That alone is enough on your plate let alone adding hers.

Her having a hissy fit when you try and hangout with your friends is a definite control issue. There is no reason why this should be happening. Especially given all you do for you her. You are entitled to do things without her. You both should have your separate lives and friendships outside of one another and your relationship. That's a healthy thing to do/have. I'm sure you don't act the way she does when she wants to do things with her friends.
Your friends were before one another and they will be there after the other goes. You can't let her push your friends away because when the time comes for your relationship to end you're taking the chance of being alone.

I understand that when things are good they are good. Most likely when she you to all to herself and you have done the things she expects of you. If the bad times are outweighing the good times then it's time to move on. Breaking up is never easy to do but you can't continue to be responsible for someone else you isn't willing to do if for themselves. It's not fair for you to always be the giver. Relationships are give and take. Not just give give give all the time. You are her boyfriend, not her parent. If you continue to let this happen then she will never learn on her own. You have to stumble and struggle in life at times to get where you need to be. That's how you learn and grow.

Sorry for the novel but it sounds like you know it's time to move on. You deserve to be happy and to have someone who is your equal. Someone on the same page as you, more mature, goal oriented, has a car, works and is responsible. You deserve someone who lifts you up, not brings you down. It's time to start worrying about you for a change and your happiness.[/QUOTE]

Thanks for all the great advice! So far she has started her new job and hasn't complained that much but she is in training and is only working for about 3-4 hours.

About her not driving what she told me is she never got a license because her mother would never teach her how to drive and she said she did have a cheap car she bought a few years ago but her mother sold it without her knowing and keeping the money. She said after that she got another cheap car but her mother would let her step-father take it out and her mother would drive it and it got wrecked.

I have also talked to her about her attitude always seems negative and one thing she said was she isn't always unhappy she just has one of "those" faces that she can't do anything about. I personally feel that is a lame excuse.

Another issue is she is very anti-social to the point that it has caused some issues/arguments. A good example is we were talking about taking two days off to go on a little trip so I asked her to ask her boss if she could take two days off but she said she wanted me to ask her boss for her. Of course I told her no and she said "Well, I guess we won't be going then". :rolleyes:

It also means she really doesn't have friends of her own. One of my best friends lives in the same apt complex and practically right next door so we can see each other often but she doesn't really have any friends, and me, her and my friends fiance even had a date night and we had some fun but after that she wouldn't ask my friends fiance to go out just them together. I even encouraged it since that would mean the times they are out together me and my friend can hang out. But as it stands she just either stays in my room watching tv or the living room watching tv and getting her to go out is quite difficult.





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