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okay here is the story.... My fiance has this girl that is one of his way good friends. When we first started dating she told him they couldnt be friends anymore because he had a girlfriend. I was kind of chocked because I dont see myself as controlling and never would have told him they couldnt hang out. So i started pushing him to try and hang out with her. Finally she agreed to hang out with him and they went with our mutual friend and his girlfriend to a pizza place here. I didnt care I had to work and thought it was good they were hanging out. This was back in September. Then she started calling my fiance to do things everyday. he usually didnt go because he wanted to be with me and she would say that she just wanted them to hang out. I started getting bothered by this but didnt think much of it. Then our mutual friend and his girlfriend called me one night (nov) and asked me to meet them for drinks they had something that they wanted to talk to me about! I thought they were going to tell me that they were getting married or something. instead our mutual friend told me that my fiance and this girl had never really dated but acted much like they were dating alot, like holding hands and cuddling in movies etc. My mutual friend assured me that the day my fiance met me that he completely stopped all that with her, even though we didnt actually start dating for another month after that, becuase he really liked me and wanted to date me and didnt want to screw anything up. Then my friends girlfriend assured me my friend was telling the truth that on my fiance's part all that had stopped but that his friend didnt understand that and she was trying very hard to get him to do stuff like that with her. She then proceeded to tell me that when they went to the pizza place this girl kept rubbing my fiances leg and that he would move over and she would scoot closer to him. And that he would move her hand and she would just put it back and then she leaned over and started whispering in my fiance's ear. Finally my fiance got up and walked over to the juke box to get away from her and our friend walked over to talk to him. The rest of the night his friend kept trying to flirt with him and touch him. When I heard this story I was mad at my fiance for not telling me and later that night I confronted him about it. he said he hadnt wanted to hurt me and also thought that I would just think he was lying. Which the truth is I probably would have thought that he was lying about not flirting with her. That night he calle dher and told her that he loved me and that if she was going to keep acting this way then they couldnt be friends anymore. Two weeks later she called and apologized and asked if BOTH of us wanted to go to dinner with her and a friend. Reluctantly I agreed because my DF said she was going to apologize. HA! When we got there she sat across from him and all night I had to listen to remember when WE did this and remember when WE did that remember when WE went here.... blah blah blah. And everytime she said we she would look at me and smirk!! Even her friend was annoyed. later that night when we got home I told my fiance that it had bothered me and he said I was being silly and that she wasnt trying to rub anything in my face just that they had done fun things and she was making conversation. Well I dont trust this girl, but she is one of his best friends and I dont want to be controlling so I told him I dont like the feeling I get when I hear her name or even think about her being around him ( i get this feeling in my stomache like I am going to throw up) and he said he knew that it bothered me and thats he wasnt hanging out with her very much anymore and I told him I didnt care if he was friends with her just that I didnt like the situation and it made me feel funny. he sai dhe didnt understand becuase he would never do anything with her but he would respect my feelings. Then about a week later he started acting weird. Like he would hide things from me about talking to her and stuff and so I started feeling liek he was cheating on me (I have never been in a relationship were I didnt get cheated on) and so I started being nosey and would read his messages when he left his phone laying around and such and I would try and keep tabs on him. I dont know why I do this because I trust him so much and Love him even more. The other night I fianlly told him why I was acting weird (i would stiffen when he touched me and tried to kiss me etc.) now he thinks I dotn trust him but that is not true!! I dont trust her and am very insecure!! Please help me to figure otu what is wrong and how I can fix this before he leaves me!!

Thanks in advance
emtdollluvsjohn
j[FONT=Courier [/FONT][COLOR=DarkSlateBlue]Hello friend. Listen, this girl is BAD NEWS, she is trying to break the two of you up, and she's doing it as maniplulative as possible. What you need to do is talk to your fiancee and this girl in person and get the real story. Confront both of them, and see how they act. I know this hurts to feel this way, but its something that has to be done in order for you to have peace of mind. New]Hello[UOTE=emtdollluvsjohn]okay here is the story.... My fiance has this girl that is one of his way good friends. When we first started dating she told him they couldnt be friends anymore because he had a girlfriend. I was kind of chocked because I dont see myself as controlling and never would have told him they couldnt hang out. So i started pushing him to try and hang out with her. Finally she agreed to hang out with him and they went with our mutual friend and his girlfriend to a pizza place here. I didnt care I had to work and thought it was good they were hanging out. This was back in September. Then she started calling my fiance to do things everyday. he usually didnt go because he wanted to be with me and she would say that she just want



ed them to hang out. I started getting bothered by this but didnt think much of it. Then our mutual friend and his girlfriend called me one night (nov) and asked me to meet them for drinks they had something that they wanted to talk to me about! I thought they were going to tell me that they were getting married or something. instead our mutual friend told me that my fiance and this girl had never really dated but acted much like they were dating alot, like holding hands and cuddling in movies etc. My mutual friend assured me that the day my fiance met me that he completely stopped all that with her, even though we didnt actually start dating for another month after that, becuase he really liked me and wanted to date me and didnt want to screw anything up. Then my friends girlfriend assured me my friend was telling the truth that on my fiance's part all that had stopped but that his friend didnt understand that and she was trying very hard to get him to do stuff like that with her. She then proceeded to tell me that when they went to the pizza place this girl kept rubbing my fiances leg and that he would move over and she would scoot closer to him. And that he would move her hand and she would just put it back and then she leaned over and started whispering in my fiance's ear. Finally my fiance got up and walked over to the juke box to get away from her and our friend walked over to talk to him. The rest of the night his friend kept trying to flirt with him and touch him. When I heard this story I was mad at my fiance for not telling me and later that night I confronted him about it. he said he hadnt wanted to hurt me and also thought that I would just think he was lying. Which the truth is I probably would have thought that he was lying about not flirting with her. That night he calle dher and told her that he loved me and that if she was going to keep acting this way then they couldnt be friends anymore. Two weeks later she called and apologized and asked if BOTH of us wanted to go to dinner with her and a friend. Reluctantly I agreed because my DF said she was going to apologize. HA! When we got there she sat across from him and all night I had to listen to remember when WE did this and remember when WE did that remember when WE went here.... blah blah blah. And everytime she said we she would look at me and smirk!! Even her friend was annoyed. later that night when we got home I told my fiance that it had bothered me and he said I was being silly and that she wasnt trying to rub anything in my face just that they had done fun things and she was making conversation. Well I dont trust this girl, but she is one of his best friends and I dont want to be controlling so I told him I dont like the feeling I get when I hear her name or even think about her being around him ( i get this feeling in my stomache like I am going to throw up) and he said he knew that it bothered me and thats he wasnt hanging out with her very much anymore and I told him I didnt care if he was friends with her just that I didnt like the situation and it made me feel funny. he sai dhe didnt understand becuase he would never do anything with her but he would respect my feelings. Then about a week later he started acting weird. Like he would hide things from me about talking to her and stuff and so I started feeling liek he was cheating on me (I have never been in a relationship were I didnt get cheated on) and so I started being nosey and would read his messages when he left his phone laying around and such and I would try and keep tabs on him. I dont know why I do this because I trust him so much and Love him even more. The other night I fianlly told him why I was acting weird (i would stiffen when he touched me and tried to kiss me etc.) now he thinks I dotn trust him but that is not true!! I dont trust her and am very insecure!! Please help me to figure otu what is wrong and how I can fix this before he leaves me!!

Thanks in advance
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