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[QUOTE=Ninispjc] But if you don't want to be her friend and are just going to bail on her because she's "too messed up," then be fair to her and do it now. Let her know up front she can't count on you.[/QUOTE]

I edited to add one of Doooom's old posts to put things in perspective. My comments follow.

"I've been dating this girl for about 3 months now. We're both crazy about eachother and so you can imagine how intense our relationship gotten. Well, just the other day my gf said she had something really important to tell me. She said her ex-bf called her asking if he could stay with her until he gets back on his feet. I'll give you a quick history of my gf's ex and their past relationship. They dated for 2 1/2 years and finally got engaged. But he hit her and treated her like ***** and so she wanted out. When we first met she was still goin' out with her ex and so I was skeptical. But ultimately she broke off all ties just to be with me. Since then we've been inseperable. She really cares for me and I truly care for her. Now this guy calls her, crying like crazy and asking her if he could move in. I guess she's the only one he can turn to. I guess his family doesnt like him and so on and so on. Back to question at hand: Should she let her ex move in with her? I cant stand the thought of another guy living with my gf. Man, I get red just thinking about it. But they were tight and my gf is very very very caring. Maybe too caring. Now, she said there would be NO relationship and that she only cares for him because they went out for so long. But she did say she was not IN love with him(well duh, if she was it would be bye-bye), only that her ex knows she's the only one he can turn to. She said she would tell him no if I didnt want her to do it. I'm really confused....what should I do? I'm crazy about this girl and I know she feels the same about me. Should I just let her do it? Please respond, it's only a matter of days until she talks to him again."

Friendship is a two way street. When has she shown him he can count on her? I'm sorry, but I'm not going to hide under a P.C. shield on this one. This girl has been and continues to be no friend to him ... she's a taker, a user and an opportunist through and through, from everything I've read here. He owes her not a thing.

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