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I need some advice. I'm 31 and I live with my boyfriend (33) since last year. We met a couple of years ago, we had a relationship then, we broke up and one year and a half later we were back together.
The thing is that I have a son, 6 years old. And yesterday he left the house after we had an argument. My boy arrived home from school, his daddy picked him up, and when he entered the house, we gave each other a little kiss on the lips. On that precise moment, my kid left, and he told me: "how can you kiss him on the lips after his father did the same, don't you know that his saliva is been there too?".
Imagine, we were on the table having lunch. We left me there, and went to the room. Then, my kid left to his afternoon class and he started talking about the same thing again, expecting me to apologize.
Since I didn't react as he expected, he started yelling, saying awful things, and after a big fight, he left the house. And hasn't returned yet.
Something you shold know is that leaving is his way of dealing with problems, it is not the first time.
We were planning to open and art workshop for kids this week and this morning, he called me to buy from me all the things I got yesterday, when I went shopping for the class we were planning. When I said, "what are you talking about, are you crazy?", he started yelling at me again, and saying terrible things over the phone.
I'm really sad, and also angry. He obvioulsy believes that I'm wrong.
[QUOTE=Kika1973]I need some advice. I'm 31 and I live with my boyfriend (33) since last year. We met a couple of years ago, we had a relationship then, we broke up and one year and a half later we were back together.
The thing is that I have a son, 6 years old. And yesterday he left the house after we had an argument. My boy arrived home from school, his daddy picked him up, and when he entered the house, we gave each other a little kiss on the lips. On that precise moment, my kid left, and he told me: "how can you kiss him on the lips after his father did the same, don't you know that his saliva is been there too?".
Imagine, we were on the table having lunch. We left me there, and went to the room. Then, my kid left to his afternoon class and he started talking about the same thing again, expecting me to apologize.
Since I didn't react as he expected, he started yelling, saying awful things, and after a big fight, he left the house. And hasn't returned yet.
Something you shold know is that leaving is his way of dealing with problems, it is not the first time.
We were planning to open and art workshop for kids this week and this morning, he called me to buy from me all the things I got yesterday, when I went shopping for the class we were planning. When I said, "what are you talking about, are you crazy?", he started yelling at me again, and saying terrible things over the phone.
I'm really sad, and also angry. He obvioulsy believes that I'm wrong.[/QUOTE]


OK, I read your post a third time and I think I got it. Your BF is upset because you kissed your 6 year old on the lips when he entered the house after his father also kissed him as he dropped him off. Your BF is the one that you are having an argument with off and on and he is the one that leaves the house. That's a relief! I thought your 6 year old was the one that up and left.

You are not wrong. He is your child and you shouldn't hold back any love and affection just to satisfy your boyfriend's lack of maturity. Do not give in to his demands at the expense of your son. There was a reason you broke up with him the first time before getting back together again. You need to revisit the past and ask yourself if the BF is really worth keeping around. I wouldn't think so, but that is just my opinion.





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