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Girls will go with the good looking nice guy, the problem is it's hard to uphold up the "nice" act when alot of attractive women are there for the taking.

Third, I believe women look for men who act like men and be themselves rather than guys who try to be nice to cover for some insecurity and hold back what they're really thinking. Just like we look for women who act like women instead of trying to be tomboys. Girls who always try to hang with the guys can get really annoying really fast.
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If the "nice" is an act, then you're not really a nice guy, and you're not someone women leave because you're "too nice." Again, I think women like nice guys, but true, REAL nice guys, not guys who only pretend to be nice for what it will get them. I think a true nice guy is a guy who can appreciate a woman for all she is and has to offer, he appreciates her not just for being a woman, but for being a good person. A true nice guy can be your best friend as well as your lover.
[QUOTE=Ninispjc]If the "nice" is an act, then you're not really a nice guy, and you're not someone women leave because you're "too nice." Again, I think women like nice guys, but true, REAL nice guys, not guys who only pretend to be nice for what it will get them. I think a true nice guy is a guy who can appreciate a woman for all she is and has to offer, he appreciates her not just for being a woman, but for being a good person. A true nice guy can be your best friend as well as your lover.[/QUOTE]

Right. I guess what I was saying was that alot of people, both men and women, are only nice if they have to be. It's a shame but it's generally true. If a guy thinks he can get away with doing whatever he feels like doing and still get the girls, he usually will.

It just bugs me when I see guys going around saying "I'm so nice! I'm so nice! But women don't want me!" Well for one there's probably other reasons for women not wanting you and two in truth they probably see you for who you really are anyway.

There's a big difference between people who have to be nice to get who they want and people who choose to treat others with respect and consideration because that's their true nature.
[QUOTE=GirlHarley]WHY do MEN have to LIE about being Nice Guys?
They reel you in (meaning us woman) say all the right things, behave like a man, hook us in...and THEN...words of LOVE are spoken with a commitment and then they just SINK us? But then they say what NICE guys they are, how any woman would love to have them if we don't want them?

I'm a nice girl too...Men want strong, independant, outgoing, woman and then when they have one they are scared off by them. You want us to commuicate our feelings and then when we do...You use it against us :confused:[/QUOTE]

Men are very insecure. They worry too much about what others, particularly women, think of them. Why do men become doctors or lawyers? Why do men workout in the gym? Why do men try so hard to be funny? Simple. To impress women. Being the "nice guy" is just an extension of the same old game. They know women want nice guys, so that's what they pretend to be. The problem is you can't tell the difference between the false nice guy and the real nice guy so men in general get a bad reputation. As I think about the way men act to impress women, I'm more upset at men for giving men such a bad image than I am at women for falling for the wrong types of men. Sure I can blame women for not using better judgement, but given all the games men play to lure women in, I guess I can't really fault them too much. It's the men who play the games that make things harder on men in general.





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