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i used to go out with this guy for a year and 3 months. We recently broke up a day after valentines day and i still can't get over him. Maybe its the fact that he was my first real boyfriend and i do consider him my first love. He says he still wants to be friends and wouldn't mind still having "benefits", like things we used to do when we were going out.My friends say its a bad idea. My question is how can i get over him and should i continue to be just his friend? :confused:
[QUOTE=MellyJellyBean]...He says he still wants to be friends and wouldn't mind still having "benefits", like things we used to do when we were going out.My friends say its a bad idea. My question is how can i get over him and should i continue to be just his friend? :confused:[/QUOTE]



Listen to your real friends. It should be easier to get over him if you really understand what is actually going down here.

From the title and content of your post, I’m guessing he is the one that initiated the breakup. The day after Valentines Day. How romantic and considerate of him. He is a real charmer.
Now he wants to go from a relationship that carries with it inherent rules and constraints, to one where he has his own “cake” available for him to eat whenever he chooses. Actually, his own piece of “meat” is a more appropriate word to use here. By him even suggesting to be “friends with benefits” after breaking up a 15 months relationship tells me he has lost all respect for you as a person. Don’t you lose your own self-respect by making any effort to get him back. This relationship is over. It’s a FUBAR! (************ Up Beyond All Repair.)

Please drop this guy completely and out of your life and move on to find someone else who appreciates you and respects you. In fact, there is nothing more to see here folks. Let’s move it right along.
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This guy definitely does not want to be your friend. He only wants one thing from you and one thing only.

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[QUOTE=MellyJellyBean]He says he still wants to be friends and wouldn't mind still having "benefits", like things we used to do when we were going out.My friends say its a bad idea. My question is how can i get over him and should i continue to be just his friend? :confused:[/QUOTE]


Well if you give him benefits you'll never get over him. Your feeling and emotions ail stay thinking he may come back when he won't. He offered that for his benefit not yours. He knows not having a GF means he won't get it all the time, but being single gives him the opportunity to have other girls. DON'T GIVE IN and give hime what he wants. To me this guy is a dog. What kind of real man would break up and still ask if he could have the benefits?

Your friends are right by saying this is a bad idea and they have to be smart to say that. Listen to your friends and they will guide you and your feeling to a better man.





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