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[QUOTE=GirlHarley]NO! You should Never trust anyone blindly..Love or Not. It's something that is earned and takes time to develop. Only person you should trust is yourself.
If you uncomfortable with your girlfriend and boyfriend in the same room then don't do it.

Keep your relationship separate, if your feeling insecure about the possiblitiy of your girlfriend flirting with your boyfriend, why put yourself in that position?

If you couldn't swim or were deathly afriad of swimming in the ocean...
Would you?

There is nothing wrong with how your feeling, but why sweat over it? Your young, your still new in your relationship, why can't you enjoy both of them
your girlfriend and your boyfriend on different nights?[/QUOTE]



Thank u girl harley,

Actually, that what I have been doing the last 9 mons. Whenever one of them suggest an outing for the three of us, i d always come up with an excuse.
So basically, they met each other once (the first time the three of us went out together, cause I really wanted to introduce them to each other and I was really looking forward to it). Eveything went wrong on that day. First, i was feeling really bad and sick, which showed on the way I looked, very tired, with my just-got-out-of-bed look. I didn't feel like talking much, was't able to even focus much, cause i was really sick. On the other hand, my best friend was all dressed up, coming with her flirtatious attitude that I JUST HATE. They kept talking for hours together, as if I am not there at all...! she even invited him to her place even though she didn't ask me about my opinion concerning this before she goes ahead with her invitation. My boyfriend too, being in the begining in our relationship at the time and being not aware of the things that would bug me, was really giving her his FULL attention to her.

So after this one time, (and taking into consideration that my best friend never really cared about making me and her boyfriend of 8 years get to know each other...) I never asked her to join us again.

But inside me, I hate that thought that comes from time to time, that he's only with me, cause I am keeping them apart, cause i am stopping their chances to be together. not because he really wants me. i feel like what i have is not true...is not real...is bound to end sooner or later.

I understand that to a big extent, this situation and how it would end or go on depends on my self-confidence. sometimes, i feel like if i trust myself stong enough, i d go out with both of them and not give a damn about the consquences. the thing is, i don't feel like i am strong enough to handle this situation, yet.

i am doing my best trying to achieve the image that would make me become in peace with myself... until then, i guess i have to stay confused....
I don't understand where your coming from when you say your keeping them apart?


As for the time that you all went out, don't you think your boyfriend was being friendly to your girlfriend because she was your friend? You already said your girlfriend is very friendly and flirtatous so could it have been that particular night, you went aganist your gut feeling that they would enjoy themeselves..BUT...it was because your boyfriend was doing it for you and no other reason?

IF they - your boyfriend & your girlfriend WANTED to get it on - don't you think something would have already happened? I understand where your coming from because when I was your age I too used to feel insecure about my relationships and maybe my boyfriend would like one of my friends or they would sneak behind my back...YES, we all at one time or another have felt as you.

How is your relationship currently with your boyfriend?
[QUOTE=GirlHarley]I don't understand where your coming from when you say your keeping them apart?


As for the time that you all went out, don't you think your boyfriend was being friendly to your girlfriend because she was your friend? You already said your girlfriend is very friendly and flirtatous so could it have been that particular night, you went aganist your gut feeling that they would enjoy themeselves..BUT...it was because your boyfriend was doing it for you and no other reason?

IF they - your boyfriend & your girlfriend WANTED to get it on - don't you think something would have already happened? I understand where your coming from because when I was your age I too used to feel insecure about my relationships and maybe my boyfriend would like one of my friends or they would sneak behind my back...YES, we all at one time or another have felt as you.

How is your relationship currently with your boyfriend?[/QUOTE]

It's going fine. I must admit, if there is anything that is causing us problems, it's either my insecurities that come in the way or my high expectations.

I am learning a great deal out of this relationship. And beleive me, I know that bad thoughts concerning my best friend are all personal issues i have with myself. I must be satisfied with myself, and the next step would be is that i d never feel irritated of any girl's presence, cause simple i ll be aware of the special person i am, and i wouldn't give a damn about anyone else.

I really believe it starts from inside you. then it is relfected on other levels in ur life.

my boyfriend is truly supportive, so much fun-to-be with, and i feel like he really loves and respects me. that's why i don't want anything or anyone to ruin this.

My best friend and I have a nice relationship as far as we are concerned...having someone who's there to listen and support u...someone who's understanding. But she has major family issues that show much on her character. like her constant desire to be the center of attention. This urge inside her wanting to prove that she can get any guy, and not to mention her flirtatious attitude. Besides, she doesn't allow me to get inside her soical circle, like getting to meet her other friends or getting to know her boyfriend of 8 years. that's why i wonder, why should i care about giving her something that didn't in the first place. Before i started dating, i knew her for three years, and she never invited me to go out with her and her bf to get to know him...so why should i care about her getting to know my bf?

thank u so much for ur reply, and by the way, how old are u?





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