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Okay, I was just browsing (because I'm so bored at work) and I came across this post and had to give a reply.

I am a female and I have a best "guy" friend. He's been a wonderful friend to me for almost 8 years. I also have a boyfriend. We've been together 2 1/2 years and I love him with all my heart. But I would NEVER change a thing about my relationship with my "guy" friend in order to please my boyfriend. To make matters worse, my friend lives in a different state. Therefore, any time I do see him I am going to vist for days at a time. Sometimes we even meet at different places for vacations. He's my "travel buddy". Now keep in mind, my boyfrined is ALWAYS invited to come with me, he just hates to travel whereas I love it.

Basically, I'm saying that comprimising and changing the original nature of a dear friendship in order to please a boyfirend is totally disrespectful to the friend who has been there for you through thick and thin.
Besides, most importantly, a relationship NEEDS trust to survive. If you are going to sacrafice a friendship based on gender, then you are going to loose in the end because your boyfriend wouldn't be asking you to do it in the first place if he trusted you. (Especially when the relationship is still so new!!!)

I do realize that not all situations are the same. In my case, my friend is like family. We don't even see "boy/girl" when we look at each other. There is absolutely NO flirtation. I even help him pick up girls when I can.
If flirtation or intimacy is present in the "friendship" then it's a whole different ball game.

Okay, just needed to get that off my chest... :-)
Everyone, have a womderful weekend!!!!
[QUOTE=Worrytomuch]Okay, I was just browsing (because I'm so bored at work) and I came across this post and had to give a reply.

I am a female and I have a best "guy" friend. He's been a wonderful friend to me for almost 8 years. I also have a boyfriend. We've been together 2 1/2 years and I love him with all my heart. But I would NEVER change a thing about my relationship with my "guy" friend in order to please my boyfriend. To make matters worse, my friend lives in a different state. Therefore, any time I do see him I am going to vist for days at a time. Sometimes we even meet at different places for vacations. He's my "travel buddy". Now keep in mind, my boyfrined is ALWAYS invited to come with me, he just hates to travel whereas I love it.

Basically, I'm saying that comprimising and changing the original nature of a dear friendship in order to please a boyfirend is totally disrespectful to the friend who has been there for you through thick and thin.
Besides, most importantly, a relationship NEEDS trust to survive. If you are going to sacrafice a friendship based on gender, then you are going to loose in the end because your boyfriend wouldn't be asking you to do it in the first place if he trusted you. (Especially when the relationship is still so new!!!)

I do realize that not all situations are the same. In my case, my friend is like family. We don't even see "boy/girl" when we look at each other. There is absolutely NO flirtation. I even help him pick up girls when I can.
If flirtation or intimacy is present in the "friendship" then it's a whole different ball game.

Everyone, have a womderful weekend!!!![/QUOTE]

Problem here is your boyfriend seems to be in the minority when it comes to stuff like this... most people in a relationship would not feel at ease with their sig other spending alone time with friends of the opposite sex. So she is dealing with one of those people in the majority.. I think if they want to make it work they need to come to some sort of compromise, like what others have said.. see your friend in public places or have others around.... its either that or she needs to find someone else who would not mind this arrangement...
Okay, just needed to get that off my chest... :-)





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