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My boyfriend and I have been together for a year,Iam nineteen and he is twenty.This is the longst relationship either of us have been in.When we first got together (the first six months) we didnt ever fight about anything,we always got along,we were always so good together and we always made each other laugh,we still do make eachother laugh and have so many good times but we fight now too.

I think its me that starts most of them because I feel like he doesnt care about me,Ill just get a feeling that somethings missing even though he will have just done something sweet for me and I will start an arguement with him at his place and then I will tell him to take me home and if he wont then I will start to walk home (he always comes and gets me) Its just that I get a feeling like he doesnt care,I dont know if its my own insecurity (probably) but it happens quite a bit and I always end it with me almost breaking up with him and telling him that maybe we shouldnt do this cuz all we do is fight.It seems like whenever we get into an arguement we forget all the good times we have had and just seem to think all we ever do is fight. We are both extremely stubborn.We have broke up twice (one time it was him and one time it was me) but we always come back together and realize that we can get over any problems.

The problem with his is that for some reason he thinks that when your in a relationship that your never suposed to fight or argue and its suposed to be just great all the time and I try to explain to him that I wont hold back on bringing something up because it would cause a fight because thats no way to live and relationships arent perfect,every rose has its thorn but he still seems to think....this is what he always says "when your young,your suposed to not ever fight with your girlfriend,your only suposed to do that later on in life" his parents never fight in front of him so he figures no couple should EVER argue.I threaten to break up with him quite a bit because I feel like he doesnt care but then last night he turned it around and said maybe he wasnt ready for a relationship because he doesnt know how to talk things through andf I told him that thats not true because he said that before and then came crying back,he was bawling when he came back to me because all he could think of was me all weekend.

We talked it over last night and were ok now but I just dont want to fight anymore,how can I just stop thinking that he doesnt care.

When I start fights with him now he ignores me because he doesnt know what to say anymore and he doesnt know how he can prove his love to me.

How can we get over these stupid little fights because I think they will eventually ruin us.Any advice for a young couple would be great.

Thanks
[QUOTE=commited]My boyfriend and I have been together for a year,Iam nineteen and he is twenty.This is the longst relationship either of us have been in.When we first got together (the first six months) we didnt ever fight about anything,we always got along,we were always so good together and we always made each other laugh,we still do make eachother laugh and have so many good times but we fight now too.

I think its me that starts most of them because I feel like he doesnt care about me,Ill just get a feeling that somethings missing even though he will have just done something sweet for me and I will start an arguement with him at his place and then I will tell him to take me home and if he wont then I will start to walk home (he always comes and gets me) Its just that I get a feeling like he doesnt care,I dont know if its my own insecurity (probably) but it happens quite a bit and I always end it with me almost breaking up with him and telling him that maybe we shouldnt do this cuz all we do is fight.It seems like whenever we get into an arguement we forget all the good times we have had and just seem to think all we ever do is fight. We are both extremely stubborn.We have broke up twice (one time it was him and one time it was me) but we always come back together and realize that we can get over any problems.

The problem with his is that for some reason he thinks that when your in a relationship that your never suposed to fight or argue and its suposed to be just great all the time and I try to explain to him that I wont hold back on bringing something up because it would cause a fight because thats no way to live and relationships arent perfect,every rose has its thorn but he still seems to think....this is what he always says "when your young,your suposed to not ever fight with your girlfriend,your only suposed to do that later on in life" his parents never fight in front of him so he figures no couple should EVER argue.I threaten to break up with him quite a bit because I feel like he doesnt care but then last night he turned it around and said maybe he wasnt ready for a relationship because he doesnt know how to talk things through andf I told him that thats not true because he said that before and then came crying back,he was bawling when he came back to me because all he could think of was me all weekend.

We talked it over last night and were ok now but I just dont want to fight anymore,how can I just stop thinking that he doesnt care.

When I start fights with him now he ignores me because he doesnt know what to say anymore and he doesnt know how he can prove his love to me.

How can we get over these stupid little fights because I think they will eventually ruin us.Any advice for a young couple would be great.

Thanks[/QUOTE]


the fact that he thinks couples dont fight at all is absurd. he needs to grow up. people fight, couples fight, if you never fight then one day it just BLOWS up in your face. He does act like he doesnt care, saying rude things to you and making you think its all your fault. its not your fault for the way he his, hes just like that. he really wants someone to turn into his little housewife(eg the tight shirt issue) and really i cant see you doing that. hes trying to change you into something youre not, maybe youre trying to change him into something HES not.... either way it cant work if both people arent real...know what i mean? im not saying youre not real or anything but you know what i mean right? the fact that he always has hissy fits(like at the river) is just plain dumb, i mean the guy is 20 years old! and also he calls down your friends and your brother, he sounds like hes got the insecurities about something! i mean come on!

anyway i prolly already told you all this BUT DONT YOU FORGET IT!
he doesnt have the right to make you feel bad all the time





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