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Hello.

I'll try to be as short as possible...

Guy #1 - My first love from 8th grade. We've known each other for 15 years and have kept in touch even when we weren't dating. He is moody and sometimes selfish. He is a hard worker, but uneducated and he could be a little more ambitious. Sexually we are VERY compatible and he really loves me. I mean the kind of love that can feel it when he looks at you. He thinks that I am beautiful and tells me all of the time. He makes me laugh until my sides hurt. He is very protective and sometimes a little macho. He wants to have children and family is very important to him. He would marry me tomorrow if it were possible.

Guy # 2 - He is 9 years older than me, very intelligent, kind and generous. He's successful and has a Masters degree. He enjoys the finer things in life and aspires to have more. Kids - he could take them or leave them. He'll have them if I want to. He loves me, I know, but he has never said it just because. He has never told me that he thinks I'm attractive. We have a calm and uneventful relationship. He has a drinking problem that's easy to ignore because he doesn't get angry, doesn't drink EVERY night and doesn't miss work, etc. We have been together for 6 years and have been 'engaged' for the last 4. No wedding plans have been made. Sexually we are not very compatible. We were for the first six moths or so, but now we have sex maybe once a month and when we do, I'm not totally into it. We are just 'comfortable' together.

Here's the crux ~ I am going crazy over which of these guys is the one for me. Guy # 1 and I would struggle financially and I would have to deal with the ups and downs of a 'passionate' relationship and his moodiness. But we would love and laugh a lot. Guy # 2 and I would have a quiet relationship and I would no doubt be able to be a stay-at-home mom when we had children. But would I miss the passion?

I know you can't know everything from a few paragraphs, but I really do love both of these men. I am tired of pulling my hart in two different directions and I know that it’s not fair to these guys either. I really want to make a decision and then give my everything to make the relationship work. I’ve tried to listen to my heart, but I can’t hear it I guess…

Thank you so much...
[QUOTE=luvmenot]Hello.

I'll try to be as short as possible...

Guy #1 - My first love from 8th grade. We've known each other for 15 years and have kept in touch even when we weren't dating. He is moody and sometimes selfish. He is a hard worker, but uneducated and he could be a little more ambitious. Sexually we are VERY compatible and he really loves me. I mean the kind of love that can feel it when he looks at you. He thinks that I am beautiful and tells me all of the time. He makes me laugh until my sides hurt. He is very protective and sometimes a little macho. He wants to have children and family is very important to him. He would marry me tomorrow if it were possible.

Guy # 2 - He is 9 years older than me, very intelligent, kind and generous. He's successful and has a Masters degree. He enjoys the finer things in life and aspires to have more. Kids - he could take them or leave them. He'll have them if I want to. He loves me, I know, but he has never said it just because. He has never told me that he thinks I'm attractive. We have a calm and uneventful relationship. He has a drinking problem that's easy to ignore because he doesn't get angry, doesn't drink EVERY night and doesn't miss work, etc. We have been together for 6 years and have been 'engaged' for the last 4. No wedding plans have been made. Sexually we are not very compatible. We were for the first six moths or so, but now we have sex maybe once a month and when we do, I'm not totally into it. We are just 'comfortable' together.


Luvmenot, it is really up to you, but who do you really love??
I don't want to give you any ideas, but look at the way you write. The other guy is full of "outer" values, the other guy is full of feeling, emotion.
It's up to you and your needs, but if you ask me I would never trade warmth, sex and emotion to someone who on paper looks good.





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