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Hi, I'm new to these boards and have been reading posts for the past few weeks.

My concern is with my girlfriend of 2 years. I am going to be a sophmore at college and she will be a senior in high school. I am feeling very uncomfortable about a new male friend she has just made from work. She seems to be hanging out with him more and more. The major problem was when I came home from school (from a 40 min drive) a called her since we had plans to see each other the night before. She wasn't home and her little sister told me she was out with "somebody". I kinda figured it was her new male friend, and I was a little upset over this.

Later that night she gave me a call, and I asked her what she was doing. She told me that she was with the friend watching a movie together at his house. I became very upset about this, because i feel that it is unappropriate to watch a movie alone with someone as it is something you would do with your sig. other. Basicly, she got upset that i got upset, and was mad that she can't do something with her friend. I tried to explain to her that its ok to have a friend of the oppisite sex, but its a problem when first, you blow me off to do somethiing with him, and secondly, you engage in an activity that i feel is unnapropriate.

A week later, a similar thing happened, only i called her house and she told me she would call me later. Well, again, later that night she called back and a asked her what she was doing, and she was with this friend again alone in her room watching a movie. Trying to avoid conflict i was just like, oh, and said I had to go to bed for school in the morning.

This brings me to the present, I don't know if I'm being contolling or too jeealous, or what, but I'm just unconfortable when shes having these alone times with this guy. I don't mind her having male friends, as all her friends are mostly guys, but its what shes doing with him that makes me uncomfortable.

When I'm alone with her, his name always comes up, like something they did together at work, and that bothers me, because i want to focus on us. We just had a litle "break" not too long ago and I don't know if shes starting to get interested in other guys. (this break happened after she went on vaction with a girl friend for a week, and she came back and things were different between us, like i didn't mean much to her as I used to)

So what do you think, I'm a overprotective controlling jealous jerk, or is it healthy that I'm cautious around this new guy? Any replies would be very much appreciated. Thanks.
[QUOTE=activesocial04;1174355]Hi, I'm new to these boards and have been reading posts for the past few weeks.

My concern is with my girlfriend of 2 years. I am going to be a sophmore at college and she will be a senior in high school. I am feeling very uncomfortable about a new male friend she has just made from work. She seems to be hanging out with him more and more. The major problem was when I came home from school (from a 40 min drive) a called her since we had plans to see each other the night before. She wasn't home and her little sister told me she was out with "somebody". I kinda figured it was her new male friend, and I was a little upset over this.

Later that night she gave me a call, and I asked her what she was doing. She told me that she was with the friend watching a movie together at his house. I became very upset about this, because i feel that it is unappropriate to watch a movie alone with someone as it is something you would do with your sig. other. Basicly, she got upset that i got upset, and was mad that she can't do something with her friend. I tried to explain to her that its ok to have a friend of the oppisite sex, but its a problem when first, you blow me off to do somethiing with him, and secondly, you engage in an activity that i feel is unnapropriate.

A week later, a similar thing happened, only i called her house and she told me she would call me later. Well, again, later that night she called back and a asked her what she was doing, and she was with this friend again alone in her room watching a movie. Trying to avoid conflict i was just like, oh, and said I had to go to bed for school in the morning.

This brings me to the present, I don't know if I'm being contolling or too jeealous, or what, but I'm just unconfortable when shes having these alone times with this guy. I don't mind her having male friends, as all her friends are mostly guys, but its what shes doing with him that makes me uncomfortable.

When I'm alone with her, his name always comes up, like something they did together at work, and that bothers me, because i want to focus on us. We just had a litle "break" not too long ago and I don't know if shes starting to get interested in other guys. (this break happened after she went on vaction with a girl friend for a week, and she came back and things were different between us, like i didn't mean much to her as I used to)

So what do you think, I'm a overprotective controlling jealous jerk, or is it healthy that I'm cautious around this new guy? Any replies would be very much appreciated. Thanks.[/QUOTE]

[I]no i don't believe that you are being jealous. I believe that you just want the same respect that you give her. But you may what to suggest meeting this friend to get a closer view of their friendship and if she declines then that's when you can start becoming a lil more suspicious[/I]





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