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Re: Cheating:
Aug 30, 2004
[QUOTE=letfayhol]When did you cheat? You said you think you may have HIV then said you were tested and its negative and that you went ot the doctor etc?
So then you posted your fears of being sick AFTER being tested and going to the doctor?
Yeah STRESS can make you sick. STRESS is one of the worst things that can happen to one's body.
You are stressed because of your guilt and shame.
Personally I think you should continue to feel sick for awhile and remember this feeling the next time you decide to betray your girlfriend.

Sorry to sound rude. But cheating is a touchy subject.
Have you told your girlfriend? I'm sure if you do, she will feel sick along with ya... :nono:[/QUOTE]


Right on! At least by not telling her, it's ONLY him feeling lousy. He did it, not her. Why should she feel crappy too? I don't mean to sound harsh (Think I've got PMS today!!! :D ) But I was cheated on years ago (by an old boyfriend) and he told me about it. Why? BECAUSE HE NEEDED TO PUT IT ON SOMEONE ELSE!!!!
I felt like death warmed over for about two months afterwards. I wish he would have never told me.
Re: Cheating:
Aug 30, 2004
[QUOTE=susieq0726]Right on! At least by not telling her, it's ONLY him feeling lousy. He did it, not her. Why should she feel crappy too? I don't mean to sound harsh (Think I've got PMS today!!! :D ) But I was cheated on years ago (by an old boyfriend) and he told me about it. Why? BECAUSE HE NEEDED TO PUT IT ON SOMEONE ELSE!!!!
I felt like death warmed over for about two months afterwards. I wish he would have never told me.[/QUOTE]


EXACTLY...
I am STILL dealing with my ex husband cheating on me 7 years ago while I was pregnant. I stayed with him, but why did he tell me about it. It wasn't a one night thing either, it was with some 19 year old ****.
I am still dealing with him calling me daily to tell me about this and that and who CARES...
I am STILL dealing with me old highschool boyfriend cheating on me with my bestfriend, cause I wouldn't sleep with him... Why did they tell me? Just brake up with me and leve me alone....
Oh well...
I agree... People DUMP their guilt on the one they cheated on and THEN they don't understand WHY it isn't fogiven or WHY they are reminded of it on occasion... They were honest , right? NO they cheated, betrayed and that isn't something that I let go of...
HOWEVER, I do with my husband had told me he was married BEFORE I married him... Now THAT is something to tell and get off one's chest :rolleyes:
LOL
Re: Cheating:
Aug 31, 2004
[QUOTE=blue_eyed_girl]Girls talk. Your ex my not tell your current g/f, but she may tell somone and eventually your g/f my hear it through the grapevine. What are you going to do when she comfronts you about it...lie??? Not only will she be hurt that you cheated on her, but you also kept it from her, pretty much lying about it. I think you have more of a chance of being forgiven if she hears it from you rather than the grapevine.

Or you can take the chance that she will never find out an drown in your own pitty pool.[/QUOTE]


I couldn't agree with you much more here. It would be best to tell now and get it over and done with because girls do gossip. There is a chance that she may never find out but do you want to go through that relationship wondering everyday when she may find out???? you will have so much guilt and insecurity.





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