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So Confused
Sep 2, 2004
I dont even know where to begin with this...I wrote a post on here a while ago about my boyfriend and how insensitive hes been lately. Well things havent gotten much better. When we are together (which still isnt very often, even though we live together) I can feel myself pushing him away, Im not trying to do it but its like I just keep making things worse. And to make everything worse, theres this guy at work who ...I dont know how to say it..who I have a crush on. We dont talk a lot because he works out in the shop and I work in the office, but when he comes in or I have to take him something we flirt a bit and stuff. I dont know if I have just developed these feelings because Im having problems with my boyfriend or what. Im just sooo confused, tired physically and emotionally. I have so much stuff going on, Im working two jobs, my little sister is being a butt, she keeps running away and is into drugs and stuff and my boyfriend has strong opinions about that and we dont agree so we argue about that and Ive been sick lately, I might have endo and he doesnt understand anything and he doesnt try too. All he ever thinks about is cars, the cars he needs to get done and money, how he can make more money. I understand to an extent about money and him working on cars (working on cars is his hobby). But it consumes his whole life and we've been together for almost 2 years, we were talking about getting married and his whole family has it planned out practically but its not gonna happen now because I want to be first in his life, I put him first in my life, but he cant put me first, its always money, and I just....man Im just rambling, Im just so confused and hurt and I dont know what to do anymore. Any advice would be nice. And I know most of you are going to say, well just break up with him but thats a lot easier said then done. Im really attached to his family and we've been together for a while. Ive tried and tried to get him to understand things, like my sister isnt our problem, its my parents and their dealing with it. And that money isnt the only thing in the world, but he says it is, because we cant have nice things if we dont have money. And about how I dont want to be hurting all the time but I cant help it and that I really do want to have sex, but it hurts and I dont want to be in pain everytime we do it, but he just doesnt understand that and gets mad. ........ :( :mad: :dizzy: :confused: :yawn: this is how I feel so....messed up is the words for it. Thanks for letting me complain...Thats why I love this place. THANK YOU
Re: So Confused
Sep 3, 2004
[QUOTE=atvgirl03]I dont even know where to begin with this...I wrote a post on here a while ago about my boyfriend and how insensitive hes been lately. Well things havent gotten much better. When we are together (which still isnt very often, even though we live together) I can feel myself pushing him away, Im not trying to do it but its like I just keep making things worse. And to make everything worse, theres this guy at work who ...I dont know how to say it..who I have a crush on. We dont talk a lot because he works out in the shop and I work in the office, but when he comes in or I have to take him something we flirt a bit and stuff. I dont know if I have just developed these feelings because Im having problems with my boyfriend or what. Im just sooo confused, tired physically and emotionally. I have so much stuff going on, Im working two jobs, my little sister is being a butt, she keeps running away and is into drugs and stuff and my boyfriend has strong opinions about that and we dont agree so we argue about that and Ive been sick lately, I might have endo and he doesnt understand anything and he doesnt try too. All he ever thinks about is cars, the cars he needs to get done and money, how he can make more money. I understand to an extent about money and him working on cars (working on cars is his hobby). But it consumes his whole life and we've been together for almost 2 years, we were talking about getting married and his whole family has it planned out practically but its not gonna happen now because I want to be first in his life, I put him first in my life, but he cant put me first, its always money, and I just....man Im just rambling, Im just so confused and hurt and I dont know what to do anymore. Any advice would be nice. And I know most of you are going to say, well just break up with him but thats a lot easier said then done. Im really attached to his family and we've been together for a while. Ive tried and tried to get him to understand things, like my sister isnt our problem, its my parents and their dealing with it. And that money isnt the only thing in the world, but he says it is, because we cant have nice things if we dont have money. And about how I dont want to be hurting all the time but I cant help it and that I really do want to have sex, but it hurts and I dont want to be in pain everytime we do it, but he just doesnt understand that and gets mad. ........ :( :mad: :dizzy: :confused: :yawn: this is how I feel so....messed up is the words for it. Thanks for letting me complain...Thats why I love this place. THANK YOU[/QUOTE]

i know how you feel believe me........i just got out a 3 year long relationship and my boyfriend was VERY insensitve. it seems to me boys are very concerned with themselves and thier interests.....girlfriends arent usually at the top of the ol' list. sure you can sit home crying all the time asking yourself why is it like this i mean sure if youre worth loving he'd change right? WRONG. really dont make my mistake of sitting at home crying and moping for yourself, you can leave him, i know it would hurt more than anything....i know oh boy do i know. but once you get out on your own youll be much much better off. it gets easier everyday. but really he cant understand your needs ect. then its his problem and not yours. plus there are other fish in the sea(guy from work ect)

bottom line im not saying leave him.....i know i cant make you do anything, but really think about it, you dont deserve to be treated like anything less than a princess....dont let any guy forget that!!





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