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This is kind of related to the post about love at a young age. I met my boyfriend over a year ago and we became really good friends throughout the months. I didn't think of him romantically or anything in the beginning...and then all of a sudden I did. Come to find out he had been feeling that way too for a while, so we got together. We have been together for 4 months now, but I feel like I've been w/him and known him all of my life. I'm 21 and he is almost 23, so I guess we're kind of young. This is our last year at college and we have been talking about getting married sometime after graduation b/c we're both planning on going to graduate school at the same place. The funny thing is, we first started talking about marriage in the beginning of our relationship. I truely believe that he is the one for me, but sometimes I think it's too quick only b/c everyone else around me has been dating for 2 or 3 years and aren't married yet. I think they would kind of freak out or think it's too soon if we told them our plans. I know everyone is different, but I think I'm just afraid it's too quick according to everyone else, and that's just what I'm basing it on. I don't think it's too quick for me at all. My parents dated for 3 months and got married and are still together 30 years later. I guess what I'm wanting are people to reassure me that it's not too quick, and once you find your significant other you find him/her...and it's just right. I really believe that with my boyfriend. I've had one previous relationship where I was burned and that did not compare to what this is. I think he might pop the question in December...that's what he might have on his mind. That will be 7 months of dating. Do you think it's too soon? Thanks for the advise guys :)
I am going to tell you my story. I got married at 18 and I was divorced by the time I was 20. I got pregnant at 17 and wanted to do the right thing. A month after my divorce was final I was out with some girlfriends. A girls night out sort of thing. We were sitting at our table and this handsome guy came up to me and we started talking. It turned out that he had my m***** name. So we kind of laughed about that. We started dating. At 3 weeks I told him and all of my friends that we were going to get married. I just knew. And after about 4 months he bought me a diamond promise ring. He then got stationed somewhere else. We decided to try the long distance thing. At about 6 months I decided that I wasn't ready for a long term relationship. I was still hurting from my divorce. So we broke up. But we still kept in touch with each other. After about 6 months after we broke up he wrote my parents a letter saying that he was still in love with me. At this time he was deployed and he started calling more. I told him that I wasn't ready. At this time I was going through massage therapy school, working, and I was a full time single mom. I just had other things on my mind. We still kept in touch after that. We had each dated other people during this time. Then one day I decided that I was ready. He called and I told him. But the reason he called was to tell me he was deploying again. So anyways to make a long story short. After not seeing eachother for a year and 9 months when he came back from the war again he flew me out to where he was and we got married 5 days later. So I now have my m***** name back. :) And I am with the love of my life........Its funny becuase I knew 3 weeks after we met that he was the one for me. So when we got married I was 22 and he was 20. So we are young. He turned 21 a week later. My point is when you know, you know....It doesn't matter how long you have known eachother beforehand just as long as you have the same morals and goals in life. You sound like you have a solid relationship especially because it started out as a friendship. Being a friend is so important in a relationship and it really sounds like you have that. Good luck to you.
[QUOTE=Soldier's Wife]I am going to tell you my story. I got married at 18 and I was divorced by the time I was 20. I got pregnant at 17 and wanted to do the right thing. A month after my divorce was final I was out with some girlfriends. A girls night out sort of thing. We were sitting at our table and this handsome guy came up to me and we started talking. It turned out that he had my m***** name. So we kind of laughed about that. We started dating. At 3 weeks I told him and all of my friends that we were going to get married. I just knew. And after about 4 months he bought me a diamond promise ring. He then got stationed somewhere else. We decided to try the long distance thing. At about 6 months I decided that I wasn't ready for a long term relationship. I was still hurting from my divorce. So we broke up. But we still kept in touch with each other. After about 6 months after we broke up he wrote my parents a letter saying that he was still in love with me. At this time he was deployed and he started calling more. I told him that I wasn't ready. At this time I was going through massage therapy school, working, and I was a full time single mom. I just had other things on my mind. We still kept in touch after that. We had each dated other people during this time. Then one day I decided that I was ready. He called and I told him. But the reason he called was to tell me he was deploying again. So anyways to make a long story short. After not seeing eachother for a year and 9 months when he came back from the war again he flew me out to where he was and we got married 5 days later. So I now have my m***** name back. :) And I am with the love of my life........Its funny becuase I knew 3 weeks after we met that he was the one for me. So when we got married I was 22 and he was 20. So we are young. He turned 21 a week later. My point is when you know, you know....It doesn't matter how long you have known eachother beforehand.[/QUOTE]


I love your story...a true love story. You waited for the right time and he waited for you!!! Now if that's not love, I don't know what is!!

My point...If you love each other time will make no difference...If it's right you will be together!
Thanks for all the replies :). I think my only problem with this situation is the fact that I'm thinking about what is typical or "normal" and what everyone else does. I guess I need to just think about our relationship and what is good for us. I really couldn't imagine being with any other person. We are so alike it's scary. We both are not the type to date around. I've always longed for that special someone like in the movies and I believe I have found him. We haven't had sex yet and are planning on marriage for that. That's what we have both always wanted to do--even before we met each other. We are quite traditional people I think. It just seems like getting married before graduate school is right for us because we will be new to a town and can lean on each other for support. Also, we got together in the beginning of the summer where we stayed in our college town because I wanted to take summer classes. We basically only had each other for the summer b/c a lot of our friends went home. There, I spent a great deal of time with him every single day. I don't think many couples get this opportunity when they first get together. I learned a great deal about him and I love him dearly. I even learned a few tiny annoying factors and they don't matter to me :-P. I guess the point is that I really feel like I am ready for a life-time commitment with him. Yes we have talked about all of the factors that were mentioned above. I know everything about him. I just think it's crazy and sort of abnormal how quickly I got ready for this. It just sort of crept up on me in a way lol. Feel free to make any other comments! :wave:
My husband and I were just friends, and just like you, suddenly it changed. We got engaged a month later and got married 6 months later. We have been married now for 19 years, and though there were bumps to get over here and there, he is still the love of my life. You may have only been dating for 4 months, but the over a year that you were just friends actually counts more, because friends reveal sides of themselves that people dating don't, because they are trying to impress someone. So as friends you actually got to know eachother better than you would have had you started dating right away. You two got to know eachother in a slow, relaxed way and grew into love. You didn't fall in love in the "normal" way, so don't worry about what is "normal". If you know this is the one, then forget about what other people do.
I think you have already made up your mind. You just want everyone here to say "hey, go for it!".

People are always going to judge you and your relationships. People will say "wow, that was fast"...just as others have said to me "when is he ever going to propose?" when I've been dating him for 2 1/2 years. Its not the right time for me to get married, soon it will be, but not just yet. Everyone's timetable is different. You hear of people who meet on a cruise, get married 3 weeks later and stayed married. You also hear of people who dated 8 years, got married and stayed married. Its about what works for you and your boyfriend. For me, I wouldn't rush things and if I was meant to marry this person then it would happen. For me, I need more time I guess to make sure they don't really screw up. But that could be because of being burned in the past.

My point is, you have already made up your mind. You just need to accept that never is 100% of all your family and friends going to approve of the choices you make with relationships. Someone will have something negative to say regardless of the choice you make. So what ends up important is what you think and what your boyfriend thinks. Everyone else is on the sidelines and they don't have to wake up next to him every morning. :)
My boyfriend and I have been together since Sept. 2003, and we got engaged December 2003, & planning to get married in May 2005. Everyone thought we moved a little quick, but I'm not on everyone else's time clock, and neither should you! Do things when they feel right to you and to him and things will be just fine. If you want to get married tomorrow, then go for it! If you want to wait 5 years then wait...don't listen to what other people think, do things that are right for you and your b/f. Best of luck to you!
Actually me and my fiance got engaged after 3 weeks and have been perfectly happy for over a year now and we'll be getting married in April. So my advise is trust your heart!





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