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My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now. He decided to go back to school this fall in a technical program. His friend Jayson is also in the program. I think its great that he went back to school. There is only one problum, and her name is Amanda.

Amanda is Jaysons exgirlfriend. She is also in the class and she is the only girl in the program. My boyfriend had never met her before this class. Out of all the people in the class, Amanda asks my boyfriend to be her partner for the year... even though jayson and her are still good friends. Initially this did not bother me.

However.....
This weeked my boyfriend and I were out of town because he races. While he was out on the track, his phone started wringing. I looked to see who it was and the name that poped up was "Amanda". I almost answered it, but decided not to and let her leave a message. I had no Idea that he had given Amanda his #. I didn't tell my boyfriend that she had called him. Later while we were on our way home his phone rings. He answers it and I hear him telling the person on the other end of the line how he did racing and that it will be 2 hours before we get back. They must have said why so long, because he explains why. Then he says "ill call you as soon as I get home." He looks at his phone and sees he has one missed call and he asks me if it was Amanda. I said "yeah, she called while you were racing. Was that who just called you now", and he said yes. He said she was really excited to hear how he did racing this weekend.

Well, we are driving home and Amanda calls him again. He didn't pick it up this time. I asked him if he and Amanda were becoming good friends. He said, "well, I don't really know her all that well. I gave her my # for home work purposes.... Are you jelous" Of course I said "no" because I don't want to sound like the jelous girlfriend type. But the truth is I am a little concerned.
He spends lots of time with her at school and she calls him a lot. Another reason I am a little upset is because when he was on the phone with her I heard him tell her the name of a bar where a raffle was going to be. Later he was talking to one of his buddies on the phone and he mentioned that he might stop off at that same bar when he got home.

I mean if something were going to happen between the two of them, wouldn't he be trying to hide it a little bit better? Am I being paranoid for no reason?

From the sound of things this girl, Amanda is a lot like my boyfriend. Outgoing, whitty. She likes the same croud. The same bars. She is closer to his age. They live in the same town.

My boyfriend and I are 7 years apart. I am very quiet and reserved. We are very opposite. Totally diffrent group of friends.

I am just afraid that if he starts spending time with Amanda, that since they have so much in common he might decide that she is a lot more fun. Amanda doesn't have a boyfriend. She just had a kid not too long ago and has no idea who that fater is.

My last boyfriend cheated on me, and I really don't want to go through that again. So, Maybe that is why I am so upset about this whole situation.

I really care for my boyfriend a lot and would be really hurt if he hooked up with this girl. She sounds like the type of girl who gets what she wants. I don't know if she likes my boyfriend, but shes been calling him quite a bit. My boyfriend in the past said that he would never cheat on anyone because he knows what it feels like, I trust him... but if the two of them start spending time together, I don't know? Thats just not right don't you think? And I really don't know how strong my boyfriends feelings are for me yet. I mean he has never told me that he loves me or anything like that.

Anyway,
Can a guy and girl just be friends with out any feelings for eachother?

How should I go about handling this situation? Any advice would be great.

Thanks!





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