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You all have very excellent point's thanks for the replies,,, as far as me loving her yes i do,, is she the one?-- I honestly have no clue,, there are factors ,, we havent "lived togethor yet" And i dont know what kind of person she would be after i had my talk with her,, I do think it would clear some things up,and only better everything,, and i do "agree" just because you love someone doesnt mean its the right thing to do...there is loving somone and being in love with someone,,.I can totally understand her insecurities with other girls,, but lets say she tends to go overboard about it sometimes,,,,which does show she cares...

you all had some good points about me wanting to be with her....well to start I will "not" even think about it untill she goes and talks to someone,, i had promised myself that last time but things were going so well i didnt want to ruin it,,, you know comfort is a weird thing,,I was usually the one that acted like i was unsure even if i knew what i wanted,, i do love her ,,, But it really does come down to having this "talk" to see what we can be like towards each other afterwords if we decide to work it out,,,,,I have to know what i really want otherwise i wouldnt be able to put in 110% like in the past

as for her not wanting to be committed,, i dont know if that is completly it,, but it is very well possible,,,,, the reason that we argued and what not were my reactions to her actions that i had no understanding of and had never been talked about,, people are scared of what they dont understand,,,,,she CANNOT handle stress what so ever and we bolth def gave stress in the past,, after we had broke up she wanted to get back togethor,, and i didnt talk to her for a month then when i did talk to her again she asked what I wanted and i said i dont want a g/friend,, which i meant anyone else but i think she took it the wrong way,, but i dont know,, so she told me she wasnt going to date anyone else she wasnt even going to casually date other people,,there was no other guy,,,and she is sick of drama and she couldnt handle any guys right now,, and she had told me friends first,, and since we werent that close ,, we should be the best of friends before lovers.....she is scared very scared and untrusting of people,,, i def do not think she realizes how much i care for her,,,,, I think at the moment she feels there is alot less stress on her because she is "single",,,,,she has called me every single day since last sat night,, 9 days in a row , i never called her 1 time,,I damn well know she cant handle being just friends because we are bolth going to hang out with other people if it doesnt work between us,,, It almost seems like she has a point she needs to prove to herself?,,,,,if she doesnt want to be tied down then its totally unfair to be calling me every day,,,,,i think she is confused between her friends advice,, which i dont believe in because its always goign to be a 1 sided story and thats what friends are for to make you feel better,,, And the fact that she is at this age and always had a b/friend,,, But she is not the type to just go out and have her fun..... im really thinking it all comes down to this talk, im going to put everything out on the table.....
Yeah you're right rd... but if it takes us to walk away totally, then is it really worth it even if they do come begging and screaming back? I wonder... These games are so petty that it really isn't even very funny at all.

I'm sorry your talk didn't go too well. It may very well be something that she knows deep down, but doesn't like for you to bring it up - maybe she's in denial of it. Perhaps it is PMT/PMS that affects her so badly. I have heard of cases that can make you really psycho. I know myself that sometimes I can be VERY irrational at particular times, and when it passes even I am embarassed of myself. The key to knowing this though, is to know when it is happening and try to control it - which she doesn't seem to be doing very well at. I am assuming that she is the type that does not take criticism well? At least you tried. And I'm proud of you for calling her bluff and telling her that SHE is the one who will lose. She has a loving, caring guy at stake, all you have to lose is a girl who plays games, doesn't know what she wants or how to act, doesn't know how to be particularly nice and that frustrates you. Actually she probably thinks that it's partly your fault because you don't answer your phone etc etc, but she can't see that it's her actions that are provoking this. No one likes to be fighting and game playing all the time... not much fun at all. Hmmmmm... it's not such a tough one is it??? But I guess it still doesn't help you to know where all this is going though, does it?

Trust me rd, I feel the same. I'm tired of trying to make someone see sense that clearly wants to fight me on it the whole way. He just does not want to talk to me. And if me telling him that I'm tired of the way he treats me offended him so badly, then obviously he is just looking for excuses not to have to speak to me. Sometimes the solutions are so simple that it's scary. But this game playing crap, well there are really no winners, and the relationship (or lack of) only suffers further. Both of our situations baffle me, and yet they shouldn't. I, like you, just want to be able to enjoy a relationship for a change, instead of having to put in so much effort and energy. I really don't ask for too much either... which is not a good thing to admit, but it's true. And even then, I'm made to feel like I'm still asking for waaaaaay too much.

I dunno. I guess there has gotta be a point where we just cut it off and say "enough". When will that time be? Who knows, I guess when we just feel that we can't take anymore. When we realise that no matter how many excuses we make, the way we are being treated is not "love"...





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