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Well, We had our big talk Tuesday night. Everything came to a head because our lease renewal came in the mail, there was no choice but to face what's been going on. I was so devastated that I had to call into work on Wed. Were not officially broken up but I pretty much think thats how this is heading he even told me I could sell all my rings and put the money towards a new car and I will get one of the T.V's and DVD players the dog goes with me and he will give me some $ for the one couch I payed for. He basically feels that I'm not sure of us and that I'm not into us anymore, I told him that that's not true I am unhappy about some aspects of our relationship but I have never wanted to give up. He said he wouldn't have proposed to me if he didn't want to be with me forever we both cried all night over this I have never seen him cry before except 6 years ago when we almost broke up I know were both young still and have a lot of growing up to do we both agreed on that. I thought he had made up his mind about us but then he called his mom and told her about whats going on with us and asked her to call me and talk and the fact that he went to her with this is almost like he's asking for a mediator he never tells her anything personal, so she called me and we talked for a while and she told me that he didn't sound good at all and that the feeling she got from him was that he isn't sure if we should break up or not and that it almost seems like he needs reassurance from me that this is what I want for my life and she told him that you cant throw away 7.5 years of your life away if your not 100% sure thats what you want or need she told him that I'm like a daughter to her and that I have been since the beginning He said that we don't have anything in common and that I don't like his friends so he cant even bring me around them. That is far from the truth I like all his friends but one the girl who really seems to be trying to drive a stake between us. Then he says that other people have noticed to that I have an attitude and that we argue all the time, I would like to know who is saying this (her??). I mentioned that to another friend of ours and he thought the same thing that someone is feeding this into his head (meaning her) if you've seen any of my posts you know that I was upset that he blew me off to go shopping with her 3 times she's his best friends girlfriend and their relationship isn't very good he (her boyfriend doesn't care about her) and she likes to talk to my BF about her problems. So as I mentioned I stayed home from work and he called me at least 10 times to check on me and ask what I was thinking, neither one of us has really eaten much of anything in over 3 weeks except when we were together on XMas eve and XMas day and he kept telling me you need to eat eat someting and I just couldn't so I said we both need to eat I will make dinner tonight so we can both just sit down and try to eat and when he called later he suggested that we go out to dinner so thats what we did had a real nice dinner together but we didnt talk about any issues, afterwords he said it was a nice dinner and a nice break from talking we'll talk some more tomorrow nothing is final yet. He called me at work this morning to check on me and everytime we talk we say I love you and hug and kiss I feel very confused I dont want him to feel pressured into staying with me if thats not what he wants I dont want it to be because he doesn't want to hurt me, I want it to be for both of us. He also told me hes been distant from me and avoiding me because he didn't want to have this conversation he wanted it to go away and I don't know if thats because he's not sure or he doesn't want to hurt me. All I know is that we both love each other more than anything but maybe its not enough if you cant communicate. I told him if we cant be together because of who we are and what we are then that's just the way it has to be but if its because neither one of us knows how to communicate to the other than thats something we can work on. Any thoughts out there on what I should do?





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