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[QUOTE=holst]Ladivapr,
Again, I take issue, If you saw me, you would definitely NOT know I ain't young. I resent your presumption. Everyone tells me I look like I'm in my 20s - maybe I'm blessed with good genes, my father is 81 and looks at least 20 years younger.

Whatever, you can go believing what you want - it seems a little defeatist to me, though.[/QUOTE]

I guess I'm sort of stuck in the middle of you two guys. If you're going to continue living and not go totally insane, you've got to keep hope alive in some way, yes, but on the other hand, it doesn't really make much sense to me to lie to myself and pretend I'm going to be the exception to the rule. Once you hit 40, the stats just don't look good. Not necessarily because of how you look, but simply because of how life works. Men in their 40s are either married or looking for women in their 20s or early 30s, that's just the fact jack. And if they want kids of their own, being 40 and looking like a young 30-something still won't be much help. You may look 30, but your eggs are still 40. It's scary, just really really scary. Living the rest of my life alone is the one thing in the world that would suck more than anything else I can imagine, but it's looking like that's what will most likely happen. With every day that goes by, it gets that much harder to believe it could actually happen. I read last spring in some magazine that Nicole Kidman was whining about how it's so hard to find someone to date, and she said "well, I'm a divorced mother of 2, so not many men want to date me." I was like dang!! If Nicole Kidman can't find a date, what the heck am I even bothering for??!! :D Now, of course, her ex husband is Tom Cruise, so I think it's safe to say that perhaps her standards are a little higher than mine, just a little, but still. When you start hearing someone like her complain about finding a nice guy, it freaks me out!! :eek: :eek: :eek: Plus, for me personally, it doesn't help that everyone I've ever known seems to be married, even my miserable ex best friend who had sucha bad attitude after her divorce that it seemed unlikely she would ever find a steady boyfriend let alone a husband (although I am happy she found someone and isn't miserable anymore). Everyone that is except for my one male friend I've posted about, who is still pathetically in love with his ex girlfriend, who was possibly the most beautiful woman I had ever seen in my life, and that includes the Tyra Bankses and the Heidi Klumes of the world, and who was smart, sweet, open, kind, friendly, tough, and an all-round great girl, but he lost her about 5 years ago through a series of really dumb, bad choices on his part, and his friend, my acquaintance, whose wife left him 7 years ago because he couldn't be faithful to save his life. It kills me to see that I fit in the same catagory as these guys, the lonesome losers, and my friend calls us all. Plus, I was just issued an invitation to my cousin's wedding. She was actually married last year, but in a very small brief ceremony. Her hubby's in the military and had to ship out to Iraq so they got married quickly before he left, but he's expected to be back soon and they are having a bigger proper wedding in the spring. This officially makes me, the oldest granddaughter, the ONLY granddaughter still an old maid. As much as I love that side of the family and would love to see my cousin, I really don't want to play the role of the poor spinster old maid granddaughter, the one who's not pretty and witty like the other two girls, the poor loser that can't get a man. Ugh.





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