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Let me give this a try...
First of all, do you know if you are her first real boyfriend?
Anyone think that maybe Dad is afraid that too much time alone will lead to too much intimacy and maybe a child?
Is your touching/holding/kissing occasional or or you constantly joined at the hip?
To be honest, one of my niece's and her boyfriend didn't seem to know when it was appropriate in front of other people. She was sitting in his lap at the get together after my dad's funeral and I don't know that THAT much public affection is necessary no matter WHAT the circumstances.
Many fathers see that kind of physical contact as a lack of respect ("treat her like a lady") and really a bit nauseating since this is their "little girl" no matter HOW old she is.

Most father's are just plain designed to protect their daughters. Especially is they are under 18 and stll living at home. It might help you do with this if you try to understand why he dislikes the behavior he sees between the two of you.
Friendship that leads to physical closeness stand more of a chance of lasting than one that gets physical too soon.

Do you want this relationship to be a good one? I'm sure you do!!
So, if you're at her house be extra polite. Use "Mr.", don't go near her bedroom even "to talk"!
Call it an acting job if it will help you out. There was a show on TV years ago called My Three Sons - and every father wants his daughter to marry a young man like one of those sons!!!

Good luck - work on the long-term getting along with this man in case he becomes your father-in-law!!
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Thanks to both of you for replying.
In response, yes i am her firt real boyfriend, so i can understand why he might have trouble 'letting go', but its not like im trying to take her away, i just want to be around her! Theres no way we'd think of anything like children yet, no where near. We both know that.

[I]"Is your touching/holding/kissing occasional or or you constantly joined at the hip?"[/I]
Erm, no we're not. She is shy about kissing and being that intimate in public, we won't do it in front of either sets of parents, whats annoying is the most 'intimate' we've got in front of her parents is holding hands, and they've got a problem even with that!? So its hardly intimate physical contact. As you can probably tell, i do respect her. I think the world of her. I'd never do anything to hurt her, and ive told her so many times i never want to push her into anything, and she know that if theres something she doesn't like then she can come and talk to me about it and i'll do the absolute best i can to sort the problem. AND, Most of the time, when we are together alone we are just talking together. Cos we just enjoy talking about things with each other.
Hence, [I]"Friendship that leads to physical closeness stand more of a chance of lasting than one that gets physical too soon."[/I] is how we're taking things at the moment too.

As for Gundam's comments, thats what I am doing, thats what i intend to do, and see how things go! I just hope it works out.
Thanks again to both of you for your help.





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