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Hi all,
I was hoping all you guys and girls out there could give me a little advice....

I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and he still talks to his ex girlfriend on the phone about every other day....he is in his late 20's, i'm in my early 20's and the ex is his age.

When we first started dating he told me they were still friends. They broke up about a year before we met and they dated for 3 years. They broke up because she moved to another state to finish college....now she is back..

Anyway, the first couple months we dated sometimes she would call when I was with him and he would pick up the phone and talk to her in front of me (not very long) and although I didn't like that he was still friends with her, it didn't really bother me...I saw them nothing more than friends.

Now, he calls her on his way home from work before he calls me and they never talk on the phone when I am around, only when I'm not. Don't ask me how I know, I just do..take my word on that.

I tried to bring it up to him that it kind of breaks my heart to know that he is still buddy buddy with his ex (whom I have not met) and I don't understand where he draws the line with his feelings and sure, I am a bit jealous. I'm a girl, it's nature. He still has her old love letters tucked in a drawer, some of her clothes in his closet, etc. The fact is he hides his relationship with her from me now, when he used to not hide it. I know they talk, I'm no dummy, but why does he hide it now? Whenever I get enough courage to bring it up he puts a brick wall up and defends her and says that I just need to get over it and not worry: that he loves me and is with me.

Am I out of line to try to tell him my feelings. He just won't acknowledge them it seems, or he hides his relationship with her because he knows it upsets me. I though that if a guy had really moved on from a relationship that he would slowly ween himself off of her and move on. I don't want him to stop being friends with her if he doesn't want to. She was in his life way before I was and for a lot longer, and I would never make him give up a friendship for me or give him an ultimatum, I just want him to respect my feelings and be open to me about his relationship with her and catch up to her once or twice a year, not 5 times a week. Is that too much for a girlfriend to ask. Shouldn't she have respect for me too and back off a bit?

The whole thing stresses me out and I have gone to my parents my sister in law, etc. for help and now I am coming to you...please give me some advice on the situation. Thank you
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