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Re: Girlfriend's Ex
Jan 11, 2005
Mr. Heydude. You need to relax. You totally sound like my boyfriend, are you? haha.

Let me tell you. My b/f was a constant "bring up the X" kinda guy. And my way of telling him that I didnt want to talk about "him" was to tell my b/f that until he changed the topic I wouldnt talk to him!

Now I too throw a nice attitude and have simple anwsers. My b/f use to hate that about me. I was a quiet person I didnt like to share much cuz I was always afraid of being let down! Your girlfriend doesnt want to bore you with details of her past. It's her past. I hate thinking of my X. And as for him IMing her s/n. Mine will do that from time to time on mine. It's usually just a "hey whats up how you been" kinda talk.

My current b/f doesnt want me to communicate w/my X as well. So ina sense I dont. If he takes the time to contact me (like it is in her case) I usually make it short and sweet. I have no interest in anything my X is doing. And Im assuming it's the same for her.

If you want to get to know her better you need to take her to dinner or out to movies, go to a concert, maybe go bowling! These are ususally the times I remember something and go on to tell my boyfriend "i remember one time...."

If you dont know her fav. food already find out! How about her color? Does she wanna live in the same place her whole life? Does she like to travel, where has she traveled. What does she want to be when she's done w/school, whats the craziest thing she ever did, catch my drift?! My boyfriend use to be like you, ALOT like you. He'd be like "tell me something about you I dont know..." it leaves me with a complete brain fart because things just come natural! I cant just spit something out and make it sound good!

I think if you just go out and have a good time with her it will naturally bring up things you can ask or things that she just might come out and tell you!?!

But truthfully I would give everything about the X a rest. Who cares if she "use" to prefer bigger guys, or "who cares" what she saw in him....The point is, she's with you now! YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU!!! Just go out and make the best of it! Dont let some dooshbag from the past ruin this relationship!

I hope that helped!

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