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I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, living together for over 1.5 years. We have a great relationship and we are best friends and never fight. I am 26 and he is 30. I am the longest relationship he has ever had. He told me that his relationships never made it past the year mark because he found something that made them incomaptible. I am also the first girl he has ever lived with. We moved halfway across the country together a year and a half ago and started our lives over together. We are doing good financially and have grown closer together. I love him with all my heart and I know that he loves me but there is a problem.

There is this girl that he met at work. She does not work with him but she is one of his customers. She has a crush on him and tips him heavily. He is a bartender. I went up there one night to meet my boyfriend after work so we could go out and have a couple of drinks. It was busy when I got there so I sat at the bar and had a drink. I only do this about once a month because I think it looks bad for me to be hanging around but he says I am welcome to go up there when I want. I saw this other girl for the first time. She came in with some of her friends, guys and girls. My boyfriend didn't talk to me much when I was there but he never does because he is working and I understand that so I just talk with other people that are there.

After he got out of work we went out with some of his co-workers. He pulled me aside and told me that he was sorry for ignoring me at work and I said I didn't think it was necessary to apologize because I didn't think he was being rude. He went on to say that he was ignoring me because that girl likes him and he didn't want her to know about me because he wanted her to keep tipping him heavy. I told him I thought that was not fair to me or to her. He is making her think she has a chance with him when she doesn't and not fair to me because I am his girlfriend and he should not be ashamed of me. He apologized and said that she was in the bar with a guy that could be her boyfriend anyway. He doesn't know that I continued to dwell on it for a couple of days because that comment really hurt my feelings.

A couple of weeks went by and I didn't think about her anymore until I realized that she was calling his cell phone. I looked at his phone. I was bad, I know and I have never done this before but I just couldn't shake these feelings. He had to have given her his number. He does hang out with one of her guy friends though who has met me and knows about me. I don't have a problem with my boyfriend having girl friends but this one is different because she is after him and I still don't know if she knows he already has a girlfriend. She called him twice last night and I can't figure out what she needs to be calling him for.

Please help! I don't know what to do. Am I being ridiculously paranoid? This needs to be addressed again but I don't know how to bring it up because he thinks I have forgotten about it and I haven't. The way he treats me has not changed. He is still affectionate with me, stilll holds me at night, still wants sex with me, comes home when he says he is going to and IMs me when I am at work. I should mention that I have been cheated on my two of my ex boyfriends but never my current boyfriend. I prided myself on being able to trust him and not getting jealous but I can feel all that I have worked on sliding away and I don't want that.

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