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[QUOTE=soulster]Why would she tell you she was going with a bunch of guys and then go with all girls??? Did her plans change or was she just bluffing you, I am just curious?[/QUOTE]
Due to my quickness in wanting to know who she's going with, and her wanting to prove a point... she was going to go with her girlfriends all along.
In the end it made me realize that, while not intended, I was indeed coming off as controlling, and that's something I'll be working on (diplomacy was never a skill I had). Following our talk, she's also agreed to be more open without me asking about it (ie an attempt at extrovertism). It's only been 1 day since that talk, but it's been good so far :)

[quote=wildcat66]I Would Tell Your So Called Girl Of 3 Years Ok, Go Spend Her Time With The Dudes And Dont Come Back, If She Would Rather Spend Time With Them Than You Go Find A Girl That Wants To Be With You. Stop Waisting Time On A Selfish *****. Move On[/quote]
wildcat66, while I understand and appreciate the fact that you're trying hard to provide advice (though perhaps not successfully so), please consider that she has been my half for 3 years now, and deserves nothing like the disrespect you're showing her (nor will I tolerate it). For everything in life, there is always more than meets the eye and I honestly hope that this is not the way you deal with your conflicts. Unless you have something constructive to say, please don't say it at all.

[quote=Gundam]D3v.

You sound like you are a very mature & decent gentleman.

It's nice that you tell her where you go & who you go with, you even invite her all the time, which is just so sweet All these things indicate that you really do respect her as your GF. I do the same too, so I know exactly how you feel.

& I think you have all the rights to ask, she's your GF. I don't know about other people here, but if I find out my GF is going SWIMMING with a bunch of dudes, I'd b upset too. I don't think I'm saying ayhting new or abnormal here. If you are OK with it, then that's fine. It's a mutual understanding ... but obviously knowing that you'd be pissed off about it, & she would still go ... that's too much ~ ~ ~[/quote]
My issue was with the lack of communication (which I attempted to compensate for by being over-inquisitive). I trust her completely (the trust is mutual) and have no right to tell her not to associate with other guys (as long as I know about it). After all, we've chose each other from all the people out there and have lasted through the years. Placing any unreasonable restrictions on a relationship would only help damage it. She feels the same way if I went out with a couple of girls only, again, as long as she knows about it.





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