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[QUOTE=single22]Does anyone believe that good things come to those who wait or that at some point everyone is dealt a good card? - I thought that in time a break-up was supposed to get easier, but how can it when get easier when nothing is going right in my life and everyone else's happiness is being rubbed in my face!?[/QUOTE]
Oh yes, I definitely believe goods things happen to those who wait. Just be patient, your time will come, and because your going thru these things now, it's just all the more appreciative you will be when it does come.

It's also in how you view things.
Like everyone else's happiness? :confused:
Your female friend can't be too happy if she's looking outside her own relationship and carrying on with someone else. Believe me, that WILL catch up to her.
And your bf - he may have been seeing her before you two broke up? He mustn't be too happy either, always out looking for more. He'll probably do the same to her once the 'newness' sets in.


So when the rest of your friends run into Mr. Karma and have to start paying for their mistakes, probably by then your new friends will have already come along, and they'll be wondering the same as you are right now. And you'll just be sitting back with your new bf, smiling.

Just keep faith (just a little longer, oh, I know its hard) and start looking at these situations in a positive light! I'll be wishing you the best, in the meanwhile.
Hi everyone

Thanks for all you messages, kind words and thoughts, I much appreciate other peoples opinions and views on love and life!!

Goody, I would like to still go out with my 'old' friends even if my ex is there, but if it's with his new gf also that maybe the problem. Mainly because I have been told recently that they're together all the time, text all the time, talk on the phone all the time and are very 'kissy' in public, yet he was never like that with me (well maybe 7 years ago when we first starting dating!) so it will be hard to see! - I wonder whether that will last or whether it's just the newness of his new relationship, I suppose only time will tell.

As for my friend, after speaking to her last night (I told her she had to make a decision because she wasn't being fair on all other parties and herself) she said she has made the decision to split up with her boyfriend but just needs to find the right time which is fair enough!

I don't want to see other people unhappy (ie. my friend get her comeupance for cheating and my ex being unhappy in his new relationship because he may have cheated on me) I just want some happiness in my own life, and like has been mentioned, I truly believe I'm a good person so deserve a little bit of it!

I'm trying to look on the bright side, I'm trying to get on with my life and I'm trying to believe all this will come in time but I have to be patient, some days I feel good about myself and my life and believe it will happen yet there are also days (very frequently recently) when that black cloud seems to hover over my life and look like it has no intention of disappearing for the sun to shine!

Once again thank you everyone, I will update soon to let you all know how I'm doing!
[QUOTE=single22]Does anyone believe that good things come to those who wait or that at some point everyone is dealt a good card? - I thought that in time a break-up was supposed to get easier, but how can it when get easier when nothing is going right in my life and everyone else's happiness is being rubbed in my face!?
Please help!! - it's getting desperate!!!![/QUOTE]
I think that sometimes when things are bad you need to find something - ANYthing that you can feel good about. For some people it is volunteering, for others its helping out a family member with small children, or going out of your way to make someone ELSE smile. Even the checkout lady at the grocery store.

It's not that good things finally come to those who wait, it's that you have to be OPEN to the good things instead of concentrating on everything that is negative. Yes, sometimes the negative can be utterly overwhelming. I'm 50 and there are times that I look back on and wonder how I survived. And I even accept that there may be more times like that again.

I don't think you really truly want others to be unhappy. Its hard to watch others who are happy I know. But if good things don't always come to those who wait, well, you can definitely meet them halfway!!!

Think of something small that you could do to help someone else.
You will feel amazed at how much it helps.
(I started coming here for support when my dad died of colon cancer... now I find that I can help others, and it ends up helping me)
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