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Hey EG - glad you're still around and getting things moving in a direction anyway. I've always been sort of big on following one's heart, but I know you've got to pay the bills too. Maybe it will be a good thing to work with friends again, if you're strong enough to avoid bad habits. And who says it has to be permanent. Once you get some bills paid off and some money stashed away, you can go back to your heart's desire if the city job just ain't working for you.

I still think it would be wisest to just steer clear of the FWB, but as long as you're not sleeping with him anymore, I can understand the need for company.But be aware of when relationships start to be a negative instead of a positive thing.

Your ex simply is not a man of his word. Do your best to just chalk it up to his being a gormless git (courtesy of genster) and move forward without him. I know exactly what you mean about being mad having to do things on your own when you thought you were going to have a boyfriend/fiance and a whole different life than the one you ended up with. I get really PO'd whenever I have to carry my groceries up to my apartment, carry my laundry down to the laundry room, wash the dishes by myself, etc etc. This is NOT how I wanted to be living at my age at all. But I really try hard to just put it all in the hands of a higher power and try to learn something from it. Sometimes it helps get me through if I have faith that it's all part of a greater plan and that ultimately, it will turn out well.

I hope things work out for you EG. Please continue to keep us updated. :angel:
Hey EG--I'm sure it will out work out well, and, for what it's worth, I think you are making the right decision. You do need a change of scenery and the better paying job will put your mind at ease at least as far as finances and health benefits are concerned. First things first. Then, a big city also offers more opportunities of meeting new people and, hopefully, your next boyfriend. It might not seem like it now, but be greatful that you are not friends with your ex. Being friends with him would mean having to listen to his stories about some new chick he's dating, running into that chick hanging on to YOUR man at birthday parties and social events, and having your heart ripped to pieces every time you see them together. As my friend says, In what universe would that be right? I think that makes a lot of sense. It's impossible to be "just friends" with a man whom only four months ago you were hoping to marry. Trust me, it's much better this way. Ruth will tell you the same thing.

Anyway, Elated, just wanted to say Good Luck with everything and let us know how you're doing with the new job and life in a big city. I myself live in a big city and it can be very stressful and sometimes too anonymous and lonely, but overall, being single in the suburbs would probably drive me insane. Look at it as a new, exciting chapter in your life. Lots of hugs to you :angel:

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