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I just need to know whether or not I'm being too selfish...basically, i've been in a LDR with my bf for 7 months and we only get to see each other every 3 weeks or so. However, he will be living in the same city as me, starting from August. He goes to the best uni in england and is a finalist, so has loads of work to do. But every single time we meet up, I just say that i really miss him and wish that we could see each other more often, and he replies, saying that there's no point in complaining and that i should either learn to cope with it, or find myself a dosser, etc. Also, he keeps saying that he's making a huge sacrifice, just by coming to visit me, cause he has so little time. The thing that hurt me, was when i just said something like "i miss you, i wish i could see u more often, it's so unfair" (he says he misses me all the time, as well) and he replies with "Yes, but im not going to screw up my degree and my career, just to spend more time with you. My degree has to come first, it's my priority." :O I wasn't asking him to screw up his degree, and come and visit me all the time. I was just saying that I miss him...he keeps saying that im just complaining, when there's no point...etc. He used to write things like "You mean more than any material posession, job, money, etc. You mean the world to me." Whatever happened to that?!
He'll be working as a banker, when he moves to my city, so he'll be working long hours. I was planning on seeing him a lot more often...but now I'm not so sure. He keeps asking me to be patient and imagine how great things will be from August, but at the same time, he says that he'll be extremely busy, etc.
Another thing is that he'll be sharing a house with 2 other guys and 2 girls. He forwarded me an email from his friend, with details about their accommodation, but his friend wrote things like "the gorgeous [girl's name] will be living with us. She has a bf, but that's not a problem! And I will ask [guy's name] beautiful friend to live with us, she's sooo beautiful. I can't wait, we're going to have so much fun!!!" I did think this was somewhat inappropriate to send to ME, his gf, and i was very moody and upset about stuff in the first place, so i emailed him back and was quite rude about it. So now I think he knows that im jealous, which is embarrassing! He kept asking me what my problem is, and what's wrong with 3 guys and 2 girls sharing a house. Well...I know loads of ppl live in mixed-sex houses and still have bf/gfs, but im just soo jealous...cause they'll be working together and coming home at the same time. I'm not going to be able to see him in the evenings, after he finishes work (partly cause of my strict parents, partly cause of his work, etc), so he'll be spending a lot of time with them! I just hate that image that I have in my head...his house...and him, sitting and talking, reading, watching tv, with those girls...let alone parties, etc! Eugh, I can't help but feel AWFUL, thinking about it...we won't get to spend much time together, but he will spend time with those two beautifuuul girls! And was it not rude of him to fwd that email to me?! Eugh god, am i just being immature about this situation...??? :-$





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