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Last July I cut ties with my sister. I made sure I was not making a hasty decision, really gave it alot of thought. I wrote her a letter stating what I viewed as her behavior, told her I could not tolerate her behavior any further and requested that she not mail/call/email me again, that I was cutting all ties to her. Do I regret it? No. Would I do the same again? Most definitely.

My sister does not know what is real and what is not real, other than what she thinks it is, and it's always in her favor. You see, she lied to me in Jan of 2004, three times about the same topic. When I verbally questioned her about her differing answers, she had no reply. This was the straw that broke the camels back. Over the years she has been very manipulative, saying things, sometimes terrible things, to people to get her way, to get her desired outcome. I too, didn't want to lose her as my sister but it got to the point where I could not tolerate it anymore.

This past Christmas she sent my 2 kids a Christmas gift. I held onto them for a period of time, contemplating if I should let the boys have whatever it was. When I asked a friend if I should let them have the gifts, her reply was....why not, she's their aunt, their family. Well, without even thinking, I immediately replied that morally she does not have the values/characteristics that my husband and I have taught them, why would I expose them to someone that lies and manipulates? If, when they are older (they're 10 now) they would like a relationship with her, then that will be their choice. Right now it is up to us to provide positive influences in their lives. So, long story short, I returned the gifts to her unopened, 'return to sender'.

As a sidenote, there are 5 siblings, two of us no longer has contact with her. Sad, but I don't regret it.

Hope this helps. Bottom line, think it through, take your time, it's a life altering decision.

faraway





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