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[QUOTE=evy38]Are you a "take charge" kind of girl? ;)
Do you prefer to lead rather then follow? ;)
Are you always right, even if only in your own mind? ;)
THEN YOU MIGHT BE ANNNNNN Alpha! ;)

Hang out with other alphas, they won't be intimated by you. ;) Your co-workers aren't worth your time or your tears.
Evy :bouncing:[/QUOTE]

Wow, Evy, what an interesting theory. I could relate to every word of the original post on this thread based on not just my personal experiences, but also those of close female friends I've had who have almost always immediately attracted hostility and jealousy from other women. There are a lot of women out there who never get over the whole high school thing where girls form cliques in order to gossip, spread rumors, tease, and criticize girls they view as competition for male attention and interest. I'm not so sure it's anything the poster is doing to attract such negative responses from other women. I've always had the same problem, except with other women who are very confident and outspoken like myself (we sound a lot like the alpha women you described--not at timid or with the tendency to group together and follow a leader). Other than those women, I can only really be friends with guys because all of my girl friends end up trying to sabotage me and stab me in the back for seemingly no reason. I think, sad as it is to say, that many women are extremely insecure, competitive with other women, and have poor self-images--all things that make them eager to pick apart women they perceive as threatening or having much more to offer than themselves. These women seem to instantly zero in on women who are confident, attractive, intelligent, women who have successful relationships and are popular with men. They then try to make that women feel sad and isolated through lots of small but intentionally mean remarks, snubs, rumors, and other forms of social exclusion. If I were you, I'd just hold my head up high, don't let them see that you care or that they're getting to you, and go about your job projecting exactly what they fear: that you are much better than them and much too good to lower yourself to participate in their immature games. Soon enough they will go after someone who they can get through too--such bullying and teasing is only fun for them when they can see that they're getting a reaction. This has generally worked for my friends and also for me in several past situations where a group of women has tried to tear me down, and hopefully the same advice will help you. I'm sorry you have to put up with such stupid and cruel high-school style bullying, but please remember to be glad that that you're confident and happy enough with your life that not only are they jealous and threatened by you, but also that you'll never need to stoop to their level and only feel good about yourself by making other people feel bad.
Lol! Oh, I'm not alone, thanks you guys. I feel a lot better about everything.

Yesterday that girl I work with (the one that I'm actually OK friends with most of the time) gave me some crap work to do, calling people. I was joking around with her, saying "You guys are evil making me do this." She looks me straight in the eye and said, "If you want to keep this internship, you're going to have to start doing this stuff."

Here's the deal--I am working for FREE (volunteering/interning). Of course I do anything they ask me to do, and more! I came in every day last week helping them get some stuff done that I was not even supposed to be doing--it was their job that they are getting paid to do. My mother told me that they are probably jealous because I am there because I want to be, doing the job that they're paid to do, but I'm doing it for free. I don't know...
[QUOTE=Blue102]Lol! Oh, I'm not alone, thanks you guys. I feel a lot better about everything.

Yesterday that girl I work with (the one that I'm actually OK friends with most of the time) gave me some crap work to do, calling people. I was joking around with her, saying "You guys are evil making me do this." She looks me straight in the eye and said, "If you want to keep this internship, you're going to have to start doing this stuff."

Here's the deal--I am working for FREE (volunteering/interning). Of course I do anything they ask me to do, and more! I came in every day last week helping them get some stuff done that I was not even supposed to be doing--it was their job that they are getting paid to do. My mother told me that they are probably jealous because I am there because I want to be, doing the job that they're paid to do, but I'm doing it for free. I don't know...[/QUOTE]For free ? My GOD..I would tell them to kiss it where the sun doesn't shine,, ;)





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