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I post a lot of questions on these boards, I know... I've got another one, but this probably sums up all of my major problems.

I want to know if I am doing something wrong, or if everybody is just immature and bitter. Everybody!!! Yeah, right--the whole world is wrong and I'm right.

I have problems getting along with people at work sometimes. IF those people are female. I have no problems with guys. Women stand around, act like busybodies, goof off, gossip, and talk about peple behind their back. It bugs me to no end how they act. And yes, I am a chick. But I'm a chick who knows how to be professional!

I truly don't understand why these women at work never like me. They'll act like they are my best friend the first couple of months, and they'll be so nice and sweet. Then all of a sudden they'll start talking about me behind my back and making smart remarks.

I am a NICE person. I'm cheerful and get my work done and go out of my way to help people. I dress nicely and present myself well, I think. But when this happens I get so confused and think I am doing something wrong! I've been reading about these disorders, like Asperger's, where you don't have social skills, but I don't know if that's really me. Maybe I just can't read people's faces. Maybe I am silly, or don't talk enough, or don't smile enough or something. I don't know! Or maybe this happens to everybody?

I cried on the way home today because it happened again. I've been at my internship for a couple of months now, and I like it a lot. Everybody's been really sweet. But today this girl made some weird comment. Now this is somebody who I get along fine with--we even go out to lunch sometimes. To make it short, she needed a piece of paper that she didn't have and I was like "Oh it's OK, I have one at home" and she goes, "Well aren't you special." I'm like, "huh?" The other lady in the office started laughing. I was like, "I don't get it." They said, "Inside joke." I played along, and said, "You guys are making fun of me, aren't you?" They said, "Nah! We wouldn't do that. We'd tell you to your face."

I'm just so confused... this happens to me at every job I get. I can't work with women. I don't see what I'm doing wrong!

I have a tendency to think it's ME...but I'm starting to wonder if people are jealous of me. That sounds so vain and awful, I know. But I'm desperate. I mean, it's getting to the point where I just want to stay home and not work. That's what some girl said to me at my last job: "Some of us HAVE to work." I'm not trying to be awful, but it's true I'm kind of spoiled...am I letting that attitude show? Should I just pretend to have problems so that people will like me? Do people really act like that when they are jealous? I don't understand it because I am nice to everybody! Does no one in this world have any class or tact? Or is it really me that's rubbing people the wrong way?

I apologize for this long rant but I would like some insight before I go to the psych tomorrow and get my head shrunk. :(
[QUOTE=Blue102]I post a lot of questions on these boards, I know... I've got another one, but this probably sums up all of my major problems.

I want to know if I am doing something wrong, or if everybody is just immature and bitter. Everybody!!! Yeah, right--the whole world is wrong and I'm right.

I have problems getting along with people at work sometimes. IF those people are female. I have no problems with guys. Women stand around, act like busybodies, goof off, gossip, and talk about peple behind their back. It bugs me to no end how they act. And yes, I am a chick. But I'm a chick who knows how to be professional!

I truly don't understand why these women at work never like me. They'll act like they are my best friend the first couple of months, and they'll be so nice and sweet. Then all of a sudden they'll start talking about me behind my back and making smart remarks.

I am a NICE person. I'm cheerful and get my work done and go out of my way to help people. I dress nicely and present myself well, I think. But when this happens I get so confused and think I am doing something wrong! I've been reading about these disorders, like Asperger's, where you don't have social skills, but I don't know if that's really me. Maybe I just can't read people's faces. Maybe I am silly, or don't talk enough, or don't smile enough or something. I don't know! Or maybe this happens to everybody?

I cried on the way home today because it happened again. I've been at my internship for a couple of months now, and I like it a lot. Everybody's been really sweet. But today this girl made some weird comment. Now this is somebody who I get along fine with--we even go out to lunch sometimes. To make it short, she needed a piece of paper that she didn't have and I was like "Oh it's OK, I have one at home" and she goes, "Well aren't you special." I'm like, "huh?" The other lady in the office started laughing. I was like, "I don't get it." They said, "Inside joke." I played along, and said, "You guys are making fun of me, aren't you?" They said, "Nah! We wouldn't do that. We'd tell you to your face."

I'm just so confused... this happens to me at every job I get. I can't work with women. I don't see what I'm doing wrong!

I have a tendency to think it's ME...but I'm starting to wonder if people are jealous of me. That sounds so vain and awful, I know. But I'm desperate. I mean, it's getting to the point where I just want to stay home and not work. That's what some girl said to me at my last job: "Some of us HAVE to work." I'm not trying to be awful, but it's true I'm kind of spoiled...am I letting that attitude show? Should I just pretend to have problems so that people will like me? Do people really act like that when they are jealous? I don't understand it because I am nice to everybody! Does no one in this world have any class or tact? Or is it really me that's rubbing people the wrong way?

I apologize for this long rant but I would like some insight before I go to the psych tomorrow and get my head shrunk. :([/QUOTE]

Are you, by chance, an Alpha female? I find that other women aren't that fond of Alphas.





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